The Adventures of Luke in His Never-Ending Quest for True Love

Is it possible to continue a relationship after an affair?

We have been together for 4 years we have a 20 month baby. I found out that he have been having an affair with his supervisor at work. I forgive him for it because i want our relationship to work but I cant seem to forget the affair i keep throwing it in his face.Can our relationship be saved?

I recently admitted to fiance about affair after i felt she had been unfaithful. Can we save our relationship?

Can you save engagement after an affair?

I’ve been with my man now for over a year. We are engaged. I’m an alcoholic and ended up sleeping with another man while drinking. I drink to the point of blacking out so I don’t know what I’m doing. This guy works with me so I knew what had happened afterwards. I wanted to be honest with my fiance so I told him what happened. He ended up moving out 3 days later. I know he’s angry and hurt, but I really do love him and he says he still loves me. But how can you rebuild the relationship after something like this happens. I know it’s possible, but I want advice from people that have been in a similar situation. And I’m sure I’ll get some bad responses too. But I didn’t do it on purpose.
I am going to counseling and taking meds to curb my cravings. I also do have a 10-year-old son. I think that a loved one should be there to help the other through these hard times, not run.

can u save a marriage after an affair?

my husband and i have been together now for 6years and married for 3months..our relationship had its ups and downs but before getting married we both sat and discussed and agreed on how we imagined and wanted our life together to be like..after we were married we were happy for a little while, but then it started to turn for the worse…he started getting more and more distant and was always irritated..we would talk about his attitudes and his negative behavior, and hed apologize and promise to do better, but itd only continue..he then started to stay gone for long periods of tume throughout the day and not feel as though he had to explain himself..obviously i asked questions, and did my own investigations when he refused to give me answers..i found out that he was having an affair and the next day i filed for a divorce..now the divorce is in process and we’re still awaiting a court hearing..i have talked to him since the night i left him, and he constantly apologizes for what hes done..he says that he wants to, and will, contest to the divorce and request time for counseling to reconcile our marriage..he swears that he regrets everything and it will never happen again..and that he loves and wants to be with his wife–his “life”..now i already know my family will not stand for this at all, but i am still very much in love with him and want for our marriage to last and work..he suggested that we move states and start over together-just the two of us..free from either of our families and friends opinions and judgement..a part of me wants to move away and start over with him, but at the same time im very hurt by his betrayel and am scared to make that sacrifice..can a marriage be saved after an affair?

How can I save my marriage after an affair?

I’m married to my husband for 8 years now. Our marriage had ups and downs. After about a year of marriage he started getting drunk every weekend and sleeping in until 3:00pm in the afternoon I was getting frustrated. He also has a “World of War craft” game addiction which means he would spend hours and hours on the computer playing this game. On a typical Saturday night he would be upstairs playing on his computer while I was downstairs watching TV.
We would never do things together like others couples do. I have asked him to stop drinking and start spending time with me. He would stop drinking for a little while and stop playing his game and then a few weeks later, he would get back to his addictions. I felt very lonely and could not handle it anymore, so I told him that I wanted a divorce. He ignored that. Then I met a guy in college and things happened that should have not happened. I felt accepted by that new guy; he gave me what I so craved for all this years and I ended up having an affair. My husband found out and all the sudden started losing weight, shaving on a daily basis, wanting to work out with me and spending more time together. My husband said that he loved me and he wanted our marriage to save. Deep down I did too, I still love him deeply and the affair was a very bad mistake on my part. I should have never done it…I feel so bad about it. Now, three months later my husband said that he could not live with the thought anymore that I had an affair and he wants some distance. We still own a house together, he wants to sell it and move into separate places for a while. I told him that our relationship is not going to be saved if we live in separate places. I still love him and I want to save my marriage, but I don’t want to live in separate places…………I just don’t know what to do? What can I do to save this marriage and win his trust back?

Birth control for women over 40. Need very reliable but safe! Is there such a thing?

I’m 44 and trying to figure out the best form of birth control. I’m concerned about using any with hormones at my age. I’m a non-smoker, pretty healthy, normal weight, have had 1 child and am in a monogamous relationship.

I definitely don’t want to risk pregnancy. My son is grown, in college and I don’t plan to have more children.

I’d like to get any info from women who’ve used the low estrogen pills, and any and all info on use of other forms of bc!
Any bad experiences, side effects, failures?

I’ve read so many statistics that go back and forth on the safety of taking the pill/hormones, especially for women over 35-40. A cancer can take so long to manifest itself, how can you really know?

I am using the Today sponge. I thought it was a pretty effective method, so it says on the box. In reading online medical sources, it has a 15-40 % failure rate out of 100!

I know a tubaligation is an option, but the thought of making it so final is a mental thing..no more babies.

Birth control for women over 40. Need very reliable but safe! Is there such a thing?

I’m 44 and trying to figure out the best form of birth control. I’m concerned about using any with hormones at my age. I’m a non-smoker, pretty healthy, normal weight, have had 1 child and am in a monogamous relationship.

I definitely don’t want to risk pregnancy. My son is grown, in college and I don’t plan to have more children.

I’d like to get any info from women who’ve used the low estrogen pills, and any and all info on use of other forms of bc!
Any bad experiences, side effects, failures?

I’ve read so many statistics that go back and forth on the safety of taking the pill/hormones, especially for women over 35-40. A cancer can take so long to manifest itself, how can you really know?

I am using the Today sponge. I thought it was a pretty effective method, so it says on the box. In reading online medical sources, it has a 15-40 % failure rate out of 100!

I know a tubaligation is an option, but the thought of making it so final is a mental thing..no more babies.

I’m 26 and single, is there a chance I’ll be married before age 30?

I’m 26 and single. I’ve never been in a real relationship, and I’m still a virgin because I didn’t want to give myself to someone I wasn’t totally in love with. I want to make it clear that, no matter what any random person has to say about that, I don’t feel like that’s a bad thing at all. I’m strong and independent, and it’s not that I couldn’t have a guy if I wanted one, it’s that I didn’t want to date meaninglessly and randomly but I only wanted to spend my time on guys I really liked. Not to sound self-centered, but I’m smart and attractive, and plenty of guys have been interested. I’m very focused on my career as well (in the middle of getting a master’s degree in biology and I’m about to go to med school in a year or two). So far I’ve liked two guys, one progressed into a relationship and the other didn’t. Both guys turned out to be sex-obsessed jerks and caused me a lot of heartache.

I could live out the rest of my life single if I wanted, and I think I could be happy…I’d be successful and have lots of friends and a fulfilling life either way. I don’t need a guy…I just want one. Having the right guy in my life, someone who’s my best friend and whom I just totally click with on every level, who actually respects me as a person instead of just seeing me as a conquest (as the two previously mentioned guys kinda did at least on some level)…would make my life a lot better. And I want that. I’m ready to not be single anymore. I wouldn’t have said this one or two years ago, but I am saying it now…I am ready to make a relationship a priority no matter how much I would have to juggle it with all my other priorities.

I’m not interested in online dating sites BTW, I just want to meet someone and have everything happen naturally, not because I went out looking for it or forced it.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting married after age 30, but I would like to get married before that. It just feels right to me…plus, like I said, I’m just ready to fall in love and find someone. Not to mention the statistics – if you want kids, 27-34 is the best age to start having them.

I’ve grown up a lot in the last couple of years and through my crappy experiences with guys, I’ve realized what I don’t want in a guy and what I do. I’m glad I didn’t get married younger when I was so immature and would have picked the wrong guy and ended up getting a divorce. Some people have told me that it’s going to be hard for me to find anyone being so inexperienced at this age and I should just be willing to settle, but I really don’t want to believe that…but what if it’s true? I think the issue is mostly that I’ve barely even put myself out there. In college, for example, while everyone else was partying and meeting new people, I was in the library studying 24/7 or otherwise building up my resume. But as I said, I am willing to make changes now so that I can make new friends and meet the right guy for me.

Is there a chance that I will find this guy within the next couple of years?

Birth control for women over 40. Need very reliable but safe! Is there such a thing?

I’m 44 and trying to figure out the best form of birth control. I’m concerned about using any with hormones at my age. I’m a non-smoker, pretty healthy, normal weight, have had 1 child and am in a monogamous relationship.

I definitely don’t want to risk pregnancy. My son is grown, in college and I don’t plan to have more children.

I’d like to get any info from women who’ve used the low estrogen pills, and any and all info on use of other forms of bc!
Any bad experiences, side effects, failures?

I’ve read so many statistics that go back and forth on the safety of taking the pill/hormones, especially for women over 35-40. A cancer can take so long to manifest itself, how can you really know?

I am using the Today sponge. I thought it was a pretty effective method, so it says on the box. In reading online medical sources, it has a 15-40 % failure rate out of 100!

I know a tubaligation is an option, but the thought of making it so final is a mental thing..no more babies.

Does anyone know any statistics on how many people meet in person after meeting online?

I have several friends using online matchmaker services and I’m just curious how many people actually meet in real life. I know it used to be considered “desperate” but it seems so acceptable now. I just wonder how many people actually meet in person. I’m trying to convince someone that it can be safe and a great way to make new friends or start a relationship so any actual statistics would be greatly appreciated! Please no personal stories.
Please no personal stories. I’m not looking to meet anyone. I’m very happily married! I just want some statistics.

Is this a logical fear of relationships, or a true phobia?

Hi, and thanks for reading

**I tried this in another section but didn’t get an answer–so I’m trying again to see what y’all think.

I have had HORRIBLE relationships in the past, and each time one of them ends, I build up more and more walls that take forever to break down, and once the person I’m with breaks down those walls, they pretty much spit in my face and do what I was afraid of them doing in the first place. Needless to say, I’m getting more and more cautious and more and more concerned about this because it seems that I have fallen into a pattern of choosing (without initial knowledge) emotionally unavailable guys. At first I thought it was a coincidence, but if I were to write you a list of things they had in common (personality-wise), it’d be astounding. Subconsciously, I’m pretty certain that I look for guys with certain indicators of unavailability because I know they won’t commit fully and the relationship has a guaranteed expiration date; I have never been interested in the fully available guys who seek marriage and children…in all honesty, they scare me. I’ve been in relationships with guys like that before and I intentionally sabotaged the relationship and either made them break up with me, or I broke up with them for no reason. It hurt like hell, and I cried–but in all honesty, I feel “right” after break-ups; it’s a sense of relief, even if I miss the person dearly. I used to think I was some sort of emotional masochist, but I think it’s more to it than that. And I know this probably sounds like it has “daddy issues” written all over it, and maybe I do have those issues to an extent, but I think it goes much deeper than that too.

I have really close male friends, but they’re all guys I’ve grown up with and have known since elementary school and they’re pretty much like my brothers and they consider me one of the guys. I make it a point not to make new male friends or acquaintances because I don’t want them to fall for me and I don’t want to fall for them either. I HATE dating and I never take my friends up on their offers to hook me up with one of their friends or cousins etc. The mere thought of dating and showing yet another person my inner-self makes me feel anxious and uncomfortable. When I AM thrown into situations where I meet new people–like, if I go out with friends and I am approached by a guy, even if I find him attractive–I intentionally do things to turn him off. I’ll be really cold and aloof, I busy myself with my phone and/or I pretend that I don’t speak English (and talk to him in either Spanish or French) all in an effort to get him to go away. I come up with a million and one things that could be wrong with the guy, just so I don’t feel guilty about what I did. I have a notion that the majority of men are liars and cheaters and that if they’re hitting on me then they’re only doing it to get in my pants and have no real desire for a true relationship, and therefore they deserve to be shot down and dismissed as quickly as possible. I’m often labeled as a “B*tch,” and I really don’t find it offensive. I’m GLAD they have that perception of me.

Sometimes I get really lonely and I long for companionship…but it’s a fleeting desire. I see no point in dating because I don’t see myself ever being married–I actually don’t even believe in marriage at all. Don’t get me wrong; I look at people in love, and I admire what they have, and I used to daydream about that sort of thing happening for me…but I don’t anymore. I just see more and more school and building a very successful career. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to be in love or have someone love me, but I’m too scared, and I don’t have the energy to put forth the effort.

Is it possible that I’ve been so badly hurt that I’ve developed philophobia? But if that’s that case, all the hurt I’ve sustained has been in some way caused by me…is possible to have a phobia that stemmed from events that YOU created in your own life?

I realize that anyone who’s been hurt is going to have some apprehension about dating thereafter…but I think/know that my case is a bit irrational/extreme, at least in my opinion.

Is this philophobia or is this relatively “normal” behavior?

**sorry this was so long, but I just had to get it out. Thanks to those of you who’ve taken the time to read all this and answer honestly. I appreciate it.

What is the SCIENTIFIC phobia name for a fear of intimacy or relationships?

like claustrophobia or angoraphobia. Plz be legit, thanks!!

I have a HUGE phobia/fear of making out with someone! :/?

I’m not like a goodie goodie or anything at all. i am not scared of sex, getting fingered, and all that. but i have this HUGE fear of making out, like i have so many oppurtunites but 1) i just like can not make out. and please dont say that ‘im not ready’ because i am fine with everything else. it is just like being so close to that person, ahh even right now im so scared. i feel the only way i could make out is if i were drunk. IDK lasdjflsh maybe if I tried making out with my best guy friend first? i wouldn’t feel awkward or something?
idk,just how can I get over this fear/phobia of this.
oh and another question
2)I have a huge fear of relationships too :/
how can i get over that?

Relationship phobia? I have a fear of intimacy, but I want it… but then I don’t? Help?

I’m not sure when this started… but it’s been going on for years. I am 17 years old and I really do not hang out with people. I stopped hanging out with my friend a month ago because I kept on standing her up and I’ve assumed that she got sick of it. I really wasn’t up to doing anything activities wise with her. Also, I feel like I’m suffocating when I am in an intimate relationship. I want to be with them, but then I want to run away. How do I solve this? I want to actually stop staying in my house all the time. I’m out-going, but I don’t do much.

How do you get over a phobia of relationships?

I found out a few months ago that I have a phobia of relationships. Like all relationships, with family, friends, guys. I developed it after loosing my dad who I was really close with at a really young age. I remember when he passed away that I told myself I would never let anyone else in because it hurt too much to loose them. I never actually wanted to not be able to let people in, but I didn’t understand when I was that young.

I had the phobia removed but I still freak out when someone tries to get close to me (Not physically, I mean emotionally, mentally and what not). In this case I’m talking about relationships with guys.

I’ve had boyfriends but they’ve never been extremely serious and I always held them at arms length. I find it difficult to let guys in, I’m 20 and I’ve finished studying so I don’t really get to meet many people. But when I do meet guys I immediately put a wall up and act polite, I don’t actually try to get to know them or let them get to know me.

I realised what I was doing so I tried to stop it. I started to date a guy but I found that while I did like him I never really liked him a lot like I never got butterflies and I was never excited to see him plus I got nervous around him and freaked out mentally wondering what he was thinking or what he wanted do. I’m a virgin and to be honest I feel embarrassed about that so I also freak out because I realise that I have to tell any guy that I go out with. And it scares me that they will change their mind about me because, well, you know how guys are at this age and feel about all of that. Anyway, so I broke it off with him because I just didn’t like him enough.

I keep wondering if that’s me freaking out and I never really completely gave him a chance and never gave myself a chance to get butterflies for him. Or maybe I freak out because I know I don’t like him that much to get butterflies and what not and all I’m doing is pushing myself to try and like him because I can’t tell the difference from not liking the guy or the phobia that is now only a fear.

How am I supposed to fall for someone if I’m always worried about the phobia and fears of getting in a relationship? I mean I really want to like someone, I really want a relationship, it’s lonely when you’ve been single for so long and all your friends have partners. But I just can’t seem to like anyone that I only just meet, I need to know them and spend time with them without the pressure of wondering where it will go or if I’m leading him on etc.

How do I get rid of these fears?!

should i change my counsellor? therapist?

Now I have had 5 years history of sexual abuse which affected my relationships, career and Other things. i had all built up inside me till yesterday. i am 24 now living in mumbai, India, i was abused when i was 11 – 15. I thought that it was better the consult the Psychologists. so i went to one.

Now here’s what happened
I was told my many that u can be yourself in front of a counsellor. so i thought i would be straight forward and honest with him. he look from a well to do family, good background. overall a counsellor with 10 years of exp in it.
as i started mentioning my incidents …he kept on asking me in questions as to whether i enjoyed etc.how many people are there in my life .. how are my relations with them. what do i want to do with my career. what has my dad to say all about it. does aNyone else know about it. do i have mood swings. what do i do in weekends. how much do i drink . what do i do during normal days etc.. ..in short he kept asking small small questions when i was mentioning my life and abuse .After i let out all the things that were holding me back and were affecting me.. i was expecting an advise from me. but he never gave me one. Instead he told me that ” I need to conducts some few tests on you to determine as to how sexual abuse has affected you. We are here to Help you and you are just 24 . we dont want you to waste your whole life”.

MMPI – 1000 bucks ( its in rupees.. I guess it would be 20 dollars in the US)… But please Ignore the curreny difference
Thematic ApperceptionTest – 1000 bucks
Rorshahch Test – 1000 BUCKs
MAP TESt – 850 bukcs
RBM or BBM test – 550 bucks
WALS oor something like that – 1000 bucks
are this normal Charge

and than he listed down a series of 10 tests on a paper and told me to start on monday and continue alternate day till the tests are done . Its an one and half an hour tests each one. he told me each tests would conduct 1000 bucks and has to be completed in max 3 weeks time. 10000 bucks in total. which is quite a lot. i can afford it. Money is not the issue
but the thing bothering me is to whether this counsellor is just a money minded businessman or do every Pyhscologists recommend
this and put every patient through it.

should i Look for other Counsellor or is this one is good enough?

What course would I have to study at University?

I want to be a Sex Therapist. I have researched the career and it sounds like the one for me but I don’t know what course I need to study to specialize in ‘Sexual and Relationship Therapy’

should i continue counselling witht his Physcologist? therapist?

Now I have had 5 years history of sexual abuse which affected my relationships, career and Other things. i had all built up inside me till yesterday. i am 24 now living in mumbai, India, i was abused when i was 11 – 15. I thought that it was better the consult the Psychologists. so i went to one.

Now here’s what happened
I was told my many that u can be yourself in front of a counsellor. so i thought i would be straight forward and honest with him. he look from a well to do family, good background. overall a counsellor with 10 years of exp in it.
as i started mentioning my incidents …he kept on asking me in questions as to whether i enjoyed etc.how many people are there in my life .. how are my relations with them. etc.. After i let out all the things that were holding me back and were affecting me.. i was expecting an advise from me. but he never gave me one. Instead he told me that ” I need to conducts some few tests on you to determine as to how sexual abuse has affected you. We are here to Help you and you are just 24 . we dont want you to waste your whole life”.
and than he listed down a series of 10 tests on a paper and told me to go through it on monday . Its an one and half an hour tests each one. he told me each tests would conduct 1000 bucks and has to be done in max 3 weeks time. 10000 bucks in total. which is quitw a lot. i can afford it.
but the thing bothering me is to whether this counsellor is just a money minded businessman or do every Pyhscologists recommend this and put every patient through it.
should i Look for other Counsellor or is this one is good enough?

I have asked this before .. i will ask again.. should i change my therapist?

Now I have had 5 years history of sexual abuse which affected my relationships, career and Other things. i had all built up inside me till yesterday. i am 24 now living in mumbai, India, i was abused when i was 11 – 15. I thought that it was better the consult the Psychologists. so i went to one.

Now here’s what happened
I was told my many that u can be yourself in front of a counsellor. so i thought i would be straight forward and honest with him. he look from a well to do family, good background. overall a counsellor with 10 years of exp in it.
as i started mentioning my incidents …he kept on asking me in questions as to whether i enjoyed etc.how many people are there in my life .. how are my relations with them. what do i want to do with my career. what has my dad to say all about it. does aNyone else know about it. do i have mood swings. what do i do in weekends. how much do i drink . what do i do during normal days etc.. ..in short he kept asking small small questions when i was mentioning my life and abuse .After i let out all the things that were holding me back and were affecting me.. i was expecting an advise from me. but he never gave me one. Instead he told me that ” I need to conducts some few tests on you to determine as to how sexual abuse has affected you. We are here to Help you and you are just 24 . we dont want you to waste your whole life”.

MMPI – 1000 bucks ( its in rupees.. I guess it would be 20 dollars in the US)… But please Ignore the curreny difference
Thematic ApperceptionTest – 1000 bucks
Rorshahch Test – 1000 BUCKs
MAP TESt – 850 bukcs
RBM or BBM test – 550 bucks
WALS oor something like that – 1000 bucks
are this normal Charge

and than he listed down a series of 10 tests on a paper and told me to start on monday and continue alternate day till the tests are done . Its an one and half an hour tests each one. he told me each tests would conduct 1000 bucks and has to be completed in max 3 weeks time. 10000 bucks in total. which is quite a lot. i can afford it. Money is not the issue
but the thing bothering me is to whether this counsellor is just a money minded businessman or do every Pyhscologists recommend
this and put every patient through it.

should i Look for other Counsellor or is this one is good enough?

i have asked this before .. i will ask again.. should i change my therapist?

Now I have had 5 years history of sexual abuse which affected my relationships, career and Other things. i had all built up inside me till yesterday. i am 24 now living in mumbai, India, i was abused when i was 11 – 15. I thought that it was better the consult the Psychologists. so i went to one.

Now here’s what happened
I was told my many that u can be yourself in front of a counsellor. so i thought i would be straight forward and honest with him. he look from a well to do family, good background. overall a counsellor with 10 years of exp in it.
as i started mentioning my incidents …he kept on asking me in questions as to whether i enjoyed etc.how many people are there in my life .. how are my relations with them. what do i want to do with my career. what has my dad to say all about it. does aNyone else know about it. do i have mood swings. what do i do in weekends. how much do i drink . what do i do during normal days etc.. ..in short he kept asking small small questions when i was mentioning my life and abuse .After i let out all the things that were holding me back and were affecting me.. i was expecting an advise from me. but he never gave me one. Instead he told me that ” I need to conducts some few tests on you to determine as to how sexual abuse has affected you. We are here to Help you and you are just 24 . we dont want you to waste your whole life”.

MMPI – 1000 bucks ( its in rupees.. I guess it would be 20 dollars in the US)… But please Ignore the curreny difference
Thematic ApperceptionTest – 1000 bucks
Rorshahch Test – 1000 BUCKs
MAP TESt – 850 bukcs
RBM or BBM test – 550 bucks
WALS oor something like that – 1000 bucks
are this normal Charge

and than he listed down a series of 10 tests on a paper and told me to start on monday and continue alternate day till the tests are done . Its an one and half an hour tests each one. he told me each tests would conduct 1000 bucks and has to be completed in max 3 weeks time. 10000 bucks in total. which is quite a lot. i can afford it. Money is not the issue
but the thing bothering me is to whether this counsellor is just a money minded businessman or do every Pyhscologists recommend
this and put every patient through it.

should i Look for other Counsellor or is this one is good enough?

Relationship advice please help?

So I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now, and everything had been going great except for this one problem. She likes to go out and drink with her friends and always wants me to come with her, she is a complete lightweight and she is not fun at all to be around while drunk. I don’t drink cause alcohol has destroyed my family so I refuse to drink (my girlfriend does not know that and not a lot of people do). I also refuse to fall into any peer pressure to start drinking cause I think peer pressure is the most stupidest thing to do to someone, so I avoid it. I’m worried that I’m putting a damp on her fun and your only a teenager once so why hold her back? We’re not in any EXTREMELY serious relationship. I just feel bad cause she should be able to have fun and not deserve me ditching her all the time, but I don’t like being around her when she’s drunk, I don’t like drunk text from her, and I don’t like hearing stupid things she’s done. What should I do?

need advice re bad relationship with mother?

I have a bad relationship with my mother, we never really got on. I’m the eldest of five children and have always felt that my mother has scape goated me for her unhappiness. She sees me as useless and as no “asset” to the family. When I was younger she repeatedly told me that I had “brought a bad element into the house.” she constantly criticised me, particularly for being over weight. As a teenager she told me that I would never amount to anything and that my younger siblings would be more successful.She constantly told me that I was “odd” and was the very same as my father’s mother ( who she didnt get on with). I dont have a great relationship with my siblings- I always felt like I didnt fit into the family and find it hard to relax around them. Basically i feel like I cant be myself when I’m with my family. when I was in school my mother constantly compared me to other students academically, which I think has had a really negative affect on my self esteem. I think that my mother does have a huge problem with me and that the underlying reason is resentment. I never received encouragement from her and the only feed back I get from her is negative. I went to college and graduated but decided to move home (prob not the smartest move),the main reason being to save money. things have gone form bad to worse with my mother- I think I’m at the point where I no longer want a relationship with her. When I moved back she made it clear that she wasnt hapy about it and that it was going to be on her terms. thats fair enough, but she has treated me unbelievably badly.She is constantly trying to pick fights, making snide remarks- it’s very difficult to live with. i think she sees me as a failure because I’m at home, however I’m working & saving money and will be gone asap. things have gotten very bad between us on a few occasions with her packing my bags and getting my father to drive me to a bus station. Once I had to stay in a hostel for a week. This happens when I go against her, the last time I was thrown out was because her phone was ringing and I didnt answer it. My father stood up for me once, but at home nobody goes against my mother as she is a tyrant.She has told me that nobody wants me at home and that they’re all so much happier when I’m not there. In my experience my mother always finds somebody to fight with, so it doesnt matter if I’m there or not she will always be unhappy. At the moment I’m trying to keep away from her as much as possible and I’m counting down the days till I leave- I’m seriously considering cutting off contact with her when I leave. I’m just wondering does anyone have any similar experiences, or any advice? sometimes I wonder if I’m over reacting but this is how I feel and dont see it changing any time soon

How to resolve a problem with my mom?

Okay so I am a 16 year old teenager who needs advice in the relationships with my mom. We had a same old conflict with my mom few days ago about how I an my brother don’t do anything to help her. The house is not clean enough or why do you vaccuum it in the morning when everything gets dirty At night. Then she says the dogs is itching were you are walking with her she got bites and fleas and deer ticks. Than look at the cats they all are hungry ( how can they be hungry if I personally feed them 3 times ) cats have fleas you sit all day doing nothing I am the only one who is working and now people will say that I have full house of fleas and that is all because of you. She constantly repeats that her life was much better with her ex husband who was beating her than with us, her life turned into screaming. She always says that it is my fault that window is broken or it is my fault that house is dirty or that is my fault that stove thingy broke or I always broke her glasses an they hide from that I did. She says that i keep on the onditioner for all night when I am not bit she still does not believe she says there is bill for 130 dollars for electricity because you are burning your conditioner . I give 200 bucks and saying go pay the bill if you think it is all because of the conditioner which I barely keep on for 2 hours a day and she says I don’t your money they not going to help me you are 16 and you are not working everyone who I am talking to say that it I’d weird that we should go work and give all our money to her instead of buying a bag or a computer. One of her favorite phrases is that I and my brother all sit in tw duckingovies and don’t do anything to help her that we should get out of the house and leave her alone. Today I called but she never answered at 11 p.m. She came from work and I asked her can she drive me tomorrow at 8 30 to new work
she said no because her client died an no her schedule is moved and her clients are more important than my job.Help

Like this girl a lot, cant keep a relationship?

So theres this girl, who I like A LOT! We have been going out on and off for the past 2 months now. Pretty much what happens, is we go out for about 4 days, and then she dumps me, we get into a argument about it and stop talking to each other for a few days, and then we apologize to each other and end up back together and repeat. Its happend I think 4-5 times now.

Now almost every single one of my friends tells me to get rid of her, but I really just cant, I like her WAY too much. She told me recently why she breaks up with me, she said its because she will like me a lot before we start going out, then we will start to go out and for some reason she just stops liking me. I think its her being bipoloar/immature really, but I also think its my fault a little bit because when we go out there is a akwardness when we see each other.

Anyways, I just need some advice on KEEPING the relationship, and maybe some things I could talk to her about before we go back out again, like plans to where she wont just break up with me because shes in a bad mood or something, we both like each other a ton.

Pleasseeeee if you have anyhting to say, post it here! If you need me to provide more details, ask for them! thanks!

P.S. We’re 14, so yea…teenager advice, not adult. Thanks
Yes I agree to the “chase” thing, thats why its so akward. Because once were finally together its like “okay….now were going out? this doesn’t feel right…”

And I know its weird if she just likes me one day and doesn’t the next, she is a very bipolar person though, everyone who knows her well agrees with me.

I need advice, on my relationship.?

Well I’m a teenager, and i go through alot, i’m on my last year of highschool, and i already think im in love. But there is a problem, you see my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend is crazy, and she wont give him up, everytime i turn around she is there in our relationship, he does not want her back for one because she’s a compulsive liar and she cheated on him. im just confused because i cant have him like i want to because she is never going to stop trying to ruin our relationship, i would be in class concentrating, and i get about 30 new text messages from her, saying your man says he loves me, and flirts with other girls, and you’re getting played. Im really tired, my happiness is limited and i shouldnt even be going through all this my focus should be on school, but i mean i dont see my self as the problem i see her as the problem, i just dont know what to do any more, my mom say be strong and stick it out until i graduate. but damn how much can a girl take? [sorry for the length]
I dont like to fight over boys, i just want her to stop so i can be happy, i just want her to move on and let me be, i wanna give up so bad and the worst part his Me and him dated a year back, and we broke up, decided to take a break and she knew that and she used to be my BESTFRIEND, and she asked him out and he said yea so that she wouldnt run off and kill her self, because thats the type of person she is… but he realized she wasnt what he wanted, and he planned on getting back with me the whole time, so when he breaks up with her 1 1/2 week later we get back together. i know it may seem wrong because we were bestfriends, but she was one of those two faced females ones who talked about you behind your back to females that you didnt get along with, and plotted to ruin your life and call you out your name, insult your mother who has cancer. its ridiculous noone should ever befriend someone like that.

Relationship Troubles. Advice Please.?

Okay, I Know Someone Is Going to Comment And Say Something about stupid teenage drama but please hear me out:)

Well I Am 16 And This is only my second relationship in high school and everything has been going great i met his family. I Love them and thy love me. And its just been perfect. But we have been only been dating for a month now, and i feel like he is loosing interest or something I’m Not Sure What it is? For Example we share a locker and at first he always came and we walked together held hands kissed you know the usual. but now I See him at the most five times a day for like two minutes:/ And No One Likes to walk alone and then you see other couples and i just don’t know what happened?

I just don’t know what could be going on. I gave him his space for this week and before we left he gave me a kiss and stuff but that’s it. i wanna ask him if he still wants to be with me. but i’m afraid he’s gonna say no. Advice Please.
- his Birthday is in 6 days so maybe something i could do?

Relationship troubles…Advice?

I’ve been going out with this guy for a few months now, and at first it seemed great and everything. But now I’m starting to wonder if I really want a relationship at all, and it seems like all he wants to do when we’re alone is making out and cuddling. Not that I mind the physical stuff, but I wish he would want to talk more…and I know that sounds like a typical female complaint. He’s also been hinting that he’s going to say “I love you” which scares the crap out of me. I’m just sarting to wonder and would like someone elses advice who’s not looking at it through my eyes.

I’m having relationship troubles… advice?

My boyfriend and I have been dating since the starting of the school year. We aren’t having troubles like everyone bashing the gay kids. But around everyone he’s comfortable with me, except his friends. He tries to keep his distance from me around his friends. Around my friends he’s all over me.

Anything I can do to make him more comfortable around his friends?

Relationship troubles, need advice?

I just got back from a five day school camp today, and during the camp I started becoming quite close with a guy who had previously just been someone I was sort of friendly with. Anyway, on the last night of camp, we went for a walk and then it started raining so we went into one of the rooms which was empty. We were talking very openly and honestly and I knew that I had been starting to have feelings for him, but I didn’t know if he felt the same way, so I started sort of giving him hints and eventually I just told him exactly how I felt, then he was holding me in his arms and hugging me and we were about to kiss, and I pulled away. I don’t know why I did it, because I definitely do have feelings for him, but I just couldn’t start something. I thought that maybe he was just caught up in the moment because we were being intimate that he was reciprocating it, but I wasn’t sure if he really had feelings for me, and didn’t want to ruin our friendship if things got awkward, and I also didn’t want to open myself up to getting hurt. I told him that I wasn’t sure and he said he just wanted me to be happy because he really cares about me alot, but now he’s saying he wants to make a clear decision and he thinks he wants to be with me. But now, I’m not so sure, even though I was the one who initiated it. I really like him but I don’t know if I want to start a relationship. I know it’s all quite complicated, but any advice on what I should do? Thanks for your help xx

relationship troubles!! nice advice only please ?

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year..we actually celebrated our anniversary a couple of weeks ago. Anyway, on this past monday i found out he has been talking to another woman late at night and throughout his day since the 12th (saturday) thats on the phone anyway..idk how long hes been talking to her online or any other way. Anyway, when i confronted him about it he lied until he had no choice but to admit it to me and he told me that he is confused about what he wants. That would be fine but, for months he has been telling me how he wants to move in together once he gets back from iraq (he is being deployed oct 25 for 1 year)..we have talked marriage and everything…he’s actually the one who has brought it up..my friends are asking me why i would put up with this since hes going to be gone for so long, but the answer is that i really love him. Anyway, I saw his cell phone call logs after he told me he had stopped talking to her bc he knows he wants to be with me now and he doesnt know what he was thinking..he must have been just worried about going to iraq. So, I saw the call logs and he has been talking to her everyday even after he said he stopped. So i confronted him about that and he said that sprints call log entries are all out of wack and not correct online. I know i shouldnt believe him and i dont, but i am really trying to salvage our relationship. i know it sounds stupid on my part but the only explanation i have is that i love him. So i wanted to know if anyone knows for sure if it is true or not? I think im just holding on to any hope that i have at this point. and i also wanted to know if anyone has been through anything similar?

oh and also, since he’s in the army, he has to do guard duty a lot, which he said he has tonight through tomorrow evening and for this one he wont be able to have his phone so i shouldnt worry about calling..but i did so i could leave him a voicemail tonight ..and i noticed in the call logs he has called like 4 ppl since he talked to me at around 530pm..2 of which were her.

again, i know im probably just an idiot, but if you have anything mean to say please dont respond, i really need serious advice here. thanks in advance

free chat sites help?

i need to find a FREE chat site…not paying for nothing at all just absolutely Free.
like doesn’t matter if its a relationship finding type of site.. sex partner kind of thing just anything

i have a friend whos very depressed. does anybody know any free online therpy chat? please im very worried.?

so my freind just broke up with her boyfriend of a year. she was, to say the least, very in love. they did everything together. when she noticed their relationship falling apart, she didnt do anything about it. he randomly broke up with her saying “i dont wanna date you anymore” then..the worst part..he started really bad rumors about her. shes lost alot of her freinds cuz of the rumors. she got on my facebook profile on day and looked at his profile (he has her blocked) she went crazy and tried to overdose. she said he was “flirting or talking to other girls”. i dont know what to do please help. shes only 13.

Relationship advice needed?!?

Hey guys if anyone could please help me out, i just need someone to talk to, if your free to chat on msn – could you please leave your addy and i’ll add you

INTERNET RELATIONSHIP FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS?I NEED HELP?

hi i was 12 when i met him and he was 23 (i was 12 but i said im 16) nothing sexual, offensive or anything, we was just typing… for 16 hours, all night, for everything. i didnt show him a picture because i was shy and not very confident i though im not his type, i didnt ask him for a pic either, we had our summer holidays we was free to chat, we couldnt chat on mic cuz im from eu and didnt speak english very well, had the dictionary on my desk all the time… summer was over, school started… i missed him constantly… we werent chatting as much, i had problems at school, wifi wasnt popular yet i had on be home to chat with him. outside was cold gray, painful. i never mentioned anyone for him i didnt want to lose him. he was gone for a month for a holiday, i remember i ate only apples, had no appetite. i know he cheated. spring was better so and the summer. school started again i went to 2 schools it was shitty schools… i was dying to be home for him. when i had a msg from him my heart was jumping, i went to sleep and got up with the thought do i have a msg from him… we was chatting everyday, sometimes when he was offline for days i went crazy, he usually did that when he was cheating… every night i was thinking for him, whats he doing whats he feeling, touching, eating… he went on holiday in eu very close to me but he never visit me, i know he was with another woman…
now i speak english better and we talk alot we sleep on mic we saw each other on cam he is normal person i know him and his family
im happy with him but it hurts i want the real contact…
i dont want to leave him but whats best for me?

What are some fun free virtual games?

I want a game where you can buy a house decorate it buy close for yourself like create an avatar and have pets and that you can chat with people and also where you can have a relationship and interact with other people please help?

According to the results of the Strange Situation test, what is the relationship between maternal attachment?

Select one.
A.Securely attached babies generally struggle to overcome the maternal dependencies created in early childhood.
B.Securely attached babies generally grow to be independent, but more vulnerable to the effects of stress.
C.Securely attached babies generally grow to be adults who are capable of handling stressful situations in a healthy way.
D.Securely attached babies generally have a healthy maternal relationship, but struggle with their paternal ties.

How do you define a mature healthy loving relationship?

We are all human beings who are subject to jealousy, anger, frustration, happiness, sadness, occasional evil thought.
Just wondering how do you define a “healthy mature relationship” between men and women. I have been taught in a healthy mature relationship, there should be no jealousy, no mind games, no testing, no threatens of breaking ups, no fights, no arguments. Just mutual respect and understanding.
What’s your definitely of mature healthy loving relationship?

Dating and Relationship test, How experienced are you?

Ok some of the questions are your opinions.

1. Why is it bad to take a girl/guy out to the movies at the 1st date?

2. Why is arguing and fighting in a relationship healthy and normal?

3. How many dates should you go with that person before you guys can commit into a monogamous relationship(aka bf and gf)?
a)1 b) 10 c)30 d) No idea

4. Warming up the girl’s heart will warm up the ____?

5. Starting a ______ can lead to a good relationship?

6. Having _____ in the first date can mess up the relationship?

Thx
1. Because you want to know the person on the first date, going to the movies is not going to stir up the conversations. Thats why the first date is always important, if you mess it up….Good luck.

2. Well this is not rocket science, but if you ask married couples, your parents, your grand parents, they will say the same thing, which is “they are trying to work things out”. People these days are sometimes dumb, because the way they do it, its 1 fight= break up.

3) It really depends between you guys, but relationship expert’s say its 10.

4) Bed. For example, if you buy your gf a box of chocolate after not seeing for a week, you will probably get a bj. Its not rocket science

5) Friendship. If you want to take things slow, friendship is a goodway to start.

6) Sex. Why? Well because then both of the people will think they were just played, and other stuff, yeah its just bad. Its not rocket science.

What is the absolute WORST thing you can do on a first date?

What is the absolute WORST thing you can do on a first date? Yeah, killing your date is bad, but that’s not the right answer, LOL! There is actually ONE right answer to this question as it pertains to progressing into a healthy relationship so test your dating knowledge and give it a shot!

Have fun!

Oh, star this question so your friends and contacts can take a whack at it!

How do I have healthy intimacy in my life to replace this toxic relationship?

I’m 23/f and moved in with a 42 year old Indian guy 6 months ago. I was desperate for a place to live and I found him off craiglist. I payed rent to him even though we had a sexual relationship. We developed a good friendship and have much of the same interests. 2 weeks after I moved in we started a sexual relationship. From the start of the relationship, he has said to me he feels bad and that he feels like he’s taking advantage of me. During the 6 months, he loved touching and holding me, and he loved the cuddling as much as the sex. He has said to me many times how lonely he is and basically has told me that he wants the touching and holding more than anything else. Throughout the 6 months, we have always said to each other we would stop having sex (because we were both becoming somewhat addicted). Plus, we both knew the relationship wasn’t going to go anywhere. Although, he always tried to make sure we have an emotional connection, and not just physical.
There was an incident a couple months ago where we were walking down the street arguing about something ( I don’t even remember what) and he pushed me. After he pushed me, he blamed me, saying that I had somehow wanted to be pushed. He also apologized saying that he sometimes can’t control himself.
A couple weeks ago, he had an STI scare, which turned out to be a urinary tract infection. However, he blamed me (even before he got the test results) saying that I had given it to him. He also had me thinking that I really did give him an STD, even though I know for sure I didn’t. He threatened to beat me up and threatened to sue me for giving him an STD. I was so pissed, I stopped talking to him. After he got the results back, he apologized, saying that he was yelling at me trying to get me to admit to sleeping with someone else. He said he wanted to see my reaction. I told him that threatening to beat me up was unacceptable. He said he was just kidding and that threatening to beat me up is the only way I will learn. He also said that his threats show he can become emotionally distant from the people that he cares about. He says he does not want to hurt me in the future and that perhaps we should not see each other anymore.
A couple times I have brought up to him that I think we should move on from eachother because its not a healthy relationship. He says that we should still remain friends and not have sex anymore. He says that he is concerned that I could get emotionally attached and doesn’t want to emotionally hurt me. He keeps on insisting that he wants a friendship with me, without sex.
What should I do?
I moved out of his place about 2 months ago, and he has been coming to my place (a couple times uninvited) when I didn’t return his calls, he just showed up. I should never have let him know where I live.
He has even suggested to me that I should see a therapist about our relationship andn talk to the therapist about whether the relationship will hurt me.
He says if I see a therapist, he would not feel so guilty. He also says that I should date and find someone my own age and be in a loving relationship. Yet he says, even if I date other people, he still wants to be friends with me. He claims he cares about me as a friend.
Last night, we had an argument at my place. He was really drunk and started sobbing. He said that he thinks I believe he’s trying to hurt me and how he always ends up hurting people and that he doesn’t want me to become attached and emotionally hurt me. He ended up leaving around 2 in the morning after I told him to leave.
He spent Christmas with my family because he basically invited myself saying he would be lonely on Christmas.
Now I’m thinking it was a huge mistake to have invited him to spend Christmas with my family.
I want to break off this relationship, yet I invited him for the holidays. Not very smart

It’s like I love his affection so much, I want the relationship to feel wanted

Where can I clarify married love matters? Are there any specific forums to discuss?

Can anyone help me with web addresses or the kind in order to clarify matters of married committed love relationship? Any forums to discuss intimate love matters for mutual enrichment and improvement in a marriage of 22 years??

IS IT JUST ME? Or do you guys find it funny when you read some questions?

I mean I have a couple of questions

1. Why is it when reading questions through the mental health forum & you read the comments why does 9x out of 10 there are comments such as go get professional help? I mean some questions I read are just everyday problems & everyday depression & worries but yet you still find ppl telling the asker to seek a psychologist? When in fact they don’t have to

2. Why is it in the mental health column people ask questions about relationships & how to fix them when there is a singles & relationship forum on here?

3. Is it just me or do you guys (I’m talking to ppl 19 & over now) is it just me or do you guys feel that sometimes you shouldn’t even ask questions because of the fact that teens on here?

I mean I have no problems with teens I think alot of times teens give much better advice than some older folks but it feels like they couldn’t possibly relate or know your circumstance

I’m a cheat and I need help?

21, female.

Umm, I’m hands down going to admit I’m a serial cheater. I’ve been cheated on before and it hurts, I can tell you every single reason why someone shouldn’t cheat and I never ever encourage it in anyone else, but I still do it.

I always cheat on the ones that never hurt me, are with me long term and crazy about me. I don’t know…maybe my brain is still in some weird twisted loop where I’m used to the horrible complicated world of dating. I never got a chance to be single and learn to love myself for more than a couple of months.

Whatever, there’s no excuse. I don’t need to be bolloxed thanks, I’ve already been told by someone that I should do a man a favour one day and never get married….ouch.

One of my problems is that I used the excuse, I’m young, I’m not married to the guy, it’s not illegal and it’s not bad in the eyes of the church so, so what?

I know it’s morally and emotionally wrong. Argh, what I’m trying to say is, is there anywhere I can go for help? Are there any support groups near London, Brighton area? Or on the net? I tried one relationships forum but everyone on there is a MORON who sees love through very unexperienced, rose tinted glasses. I just need support to stop!

Being yelled at and told how horrible I am makes me care less!

I love my boyfriend now and I want to act before it’s too late.

Need opinions from guys with military experience?

I originally posted this question in the relationship forum but thought maybe guys with some military background would be more helpful. Sorry, but it’s kinda long. So here it goes:

Question for you guys out there: would any of you want to be in a relationship with an intelligent, witty, and sexy but in a sophisticated way sort of girl who just so happens to be totally into fighter jets (especially of the Navy variant) and anything that has anything to do with military warfare, demolition, and combat strategy? She’s also super good at stuff like math, science, computers, and engineering. But she’s not that big into most sports though…except for pool (as in pool & billiards). Then she’s like a pool fiend, and you have to drag her off of the pool table.

My best friend is just like that and she’s having a really hard time finding a boyfriend. I can’t figure out why. She is really beautiful and kinda looks like Angelina Jolie with the high cheekbones and pouty lips. And she has curves in all the right places. But she has like no interest in girl stuff. Like her DVD collection has nothing but stuff like Saving Private Ryan, Black Hawk Down, The Godfather, and tons of documentaries about history and the military. Her fave music genres are heavy metal stuff like Rammstein and KMFDM, but she also loves operas and symphonies and classical music. Oh, and she hates Celine Dion, The Titanic, and pretty much anything feminine like romantic movies and even dresses and skirts. She can carry a great conversation pretty much about anything like politics or history or current events or culture, but like I have to pick out outfits for her because she has no clue and doesn’t even care. Her fave store to shop at is the military surplus store!!! I mean she’ll wear make-up and doesn’t look guyish at all, but she just doesn’t act like one.

But I’m a girly girl and I want to see her be more feminine. She’s a really good friend and I like her a lot. I guess my real question is if there are any guys out there that would actually want to be in a relationship with a girl like that or I should try to get her to change.

Oh, BTW, she also has this weird, twisted, kinda cynical, sarcastic and morbid sense of humor. And she has no clue when a guy is interested in her; like she just thinks all guys are just like war buddies. Is she just plain weird? Could that be the reason?

Also, pls try to make your answer as detailed as possible, and thx 4 the help.
Thx 4 all the great answers, guys!!! Plz keep them coming. I just wanted to add that she doesn’t have many female friends, prob. mainly because she doesn’t know how to be female…I mean like personality. She definitely looks like one. She just doesn’t act or think like one! Actually, her only other female friend is her god-sister!!!

But like she’ll just bond almost instantly to a guy, and most of the time, the guy has some sort of military background.
To Big_Jake,

Thx for your sincere response. I just want to say that it’s not like she doesn’t know they’re “interested” in her. It’s more like she doesn’t know if the guy just wants sex out of her b/c of her looks or he’s actually really interested in her as a package, like her personality and everything. Like I know she can intimidate alot of guys cuz I’ve seen her do that, but she’s really sweet and like totally loyal in a good relationship, and that’s why I wanna help her so much!!!
To Marine5,

Y would you ever say that? Like why can’t u believe there really are girls like that? Like I should be more jealous of her, but I’m not. Like if you knew her, you’d know it’s really hard to be jealous of her, cuz she really is a good person.

Why do people try to get help with their relationships on an open forum?

imho, its kinda weird.

Why do women complain when the laws they created are eventually used on them?

Recently there’s a bunch of stories in the news where law enforcement and prosecutors are abusing many of the special crimes laws that Women‘s Groups lobbied for.

One example: Last week a Mom was charged with (Felony Harassment) for going into her 16 yr old teen sons facebook account and changing his password so he couldn’t get back on. I have no idea what, when, where or why but the point is she’s the mother (parent), the state government is not the Parent.

I believe I heard the 16 yr old was also seeking a restraining order. That’s just one example.

Teen sexting is another example where Prosecutors are arresting and putting teens on the sex offenders list for life. Again another area where the Parents should handle this situation.

So why are Moms on the News with their Lawyers screaming fowl when their own special laws have come home to roost?

That why you don’t give the government or the state more and more power, because they abuse it.

Parents: What’s with you these (Its long but worth reading)?

What’s with parents these days?
Its like they don’t even know their children at all. Do you not live with your kids or something?

For example: A question on here was asked by a woman’s friend. The friend’s friend wants to get her 16 year old son a cell phone but wants to be able to sneakily foward the text message and the asked wanted to know if this was possible. She didn’t want the son sexting or other “BS”.

Does the woman not speak to her son? Does she not even know him well enough to know if he would do things like that?

It just seems to me like parents don’t know their teens and only see them as teenagers and live by the motto that teenagers should never be trusted no matter what, sheerly based on the fact that they are teenagers. Also that parents would rather use the latest technology to spy on their kids instead of getting to know them and who they are as a person.

Another example: I am 19 and my mom has picture texting blocked on my cell phone. Why you may ask? Because I am a teenager and teenagers sext. -.- I rest my case. I actually don’t know how to put my thoughts into words with this one. It makes me feel like she doesn’t even know me…I feel like I should go ask if she even remembers my name.

Its seems like parents would rather spy and not trust their teens because they are teenagers than taking them time to get to know their teenager.

And another thing:
Why do people say if you are a teenager and doing this or that then this (insert horrible thing here) WILL happen?
Ex: If you don’t constantly supervise teens on the internet Johnny McChildPreadator will get them on myspace no ifs ands or buts about it.
Its like thank you miss cleo for your insight of the furture..

These same people think that no matter how great a teenager is or no matter their personal beliefs or how informed and safe they are they simply shouldn’t ever be trusted because they are a teenager.

What is up with this?
Its not very logical and its a pretty dootdodooo googly eyed way of blindly running around through life spying and not trusting way of life.
No I am not mad at my mommy.
I am mad at all the people who sterotype and make generalization about teenagers soley based on their age.

And I did ask a question…
Whats up with all that?
Who do people feel the need to be like that?
Why don’t they take the time to know their kids instead of not trusting them or thinking they are not to be trusted ever?

Can anyone double check my Argument Summery?

Here are 2 Argument Summaries, plz check for errors, thx.

Gibbs Argument Summary

In “Cell-Phone Second Thoughts” Nancy Gibbs argues that cell phones demolish a teen’s life through wasting time, cheating on tests, organizing fights, bulling class mates, and more commonly, sexting. She claims that when teens upload an image of themselves naked, many people get offended and that teen gets arrested for “sexual abuse of children”. Gibbs provides a research in which a fifteen year old girl was charged for that same cause. Gibbs illustrates that when teens upload their image, it will never be deleted and when that teen want to run for president or be something important, she or he can be abused by that stupid mistake made a long time ago. Lastly, the author asks for more laws regarding kids having a cell phone. Nancy Gibbs purpose is to warn parents in order to protect their children from destroying their own life. This work is significant because many teens in the twentieth century use technology in the wrong way, though at the beginning of establishing cell-phones, it was thought they will simple every-one’s life.

9-1-1 Argument Summary

Theola Labbe-DeBose argues that 9-1-1 needs improvement through hiring more operators and establishing a department for text messages. She claims that text messaging 9-1-1 might come in handy when someone needs help who can not communicate through voice. DeBose develops this claim by first illustrating a real life event in which a teenager had only one way to get help, which was to text 9-1-1, though at that time and place the police station was not “modernised enough”. Secondly, she assists her claim by providing an example in which an ex-boyfriend of a homeowner violated a restraining order and broke in, the women, Flores texted 9-1-1 and the police arrived. Unfortunately, text messaging is only available in some places, such as Iowa. Lastly, the author provides a counter, she demonstrates that establishing text messages in a police station costs a-lot of money. Theola Labbe-DeBose purpose is to inform citizens that texting 9-1-1 is another option that anyone can have. This work is important because our technology is developing every minute but our very police stations are doing the opposite.
TELL Me where they are cause i dont see any.

Does he deserve another chance?

I found texts on my husbands phone that were from one of his female co-workers (she’s actually on mat. leave right now) The texts were sexual in nature, a couple of examples are ~ she is talking about how he likes to look at her “twins” and she’ll wear that shirt for him if he wants and another one was telling him not to wear those jeans cos she can’t stop looking at his “a**” and finally the worst one was something about sneaking around for the past 2 years (not sure if that meant affair or sneaking peeks or what) I am extremely hurt also because I talked about her to him like 2 weeks ago about how I felt insecure b/c she texted him a few weeks ago asking him if he missed her…I thought that seemed weird to me. This woman has a husband (who apparently cheated on her repeatly) 2 kids and she is in her 30′s. My husband and I have 2 small children as well. I find it weird that my husband knows so much of her personal life (like her husband cheats) I am extremely hurt and am contemplating leaving. I have not talked to him since I read these. He has not asked what is wrong with me or anything. I feel like I’ve had my heart ripped out. Their text convo ended saying she’ll chat with him on fb later. What should I do?? I don’t want my relationship to end but I will not put up with a pig.

so finally after 2 days of walking wounded~ I asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me, he played dumb and made me come right out and ask wtf is going on with these texts~ then he told me that he didn’t feel close to me at the time (last week) & that it was the first and only time he ever done anything like this, & how after he told her that it wasn’t right that they had this “sexting convo” & it ended there & then. I am just hurting so bad right now. I feel like my love isn’t good enough for him. I feel like I’ve already lost him. He blames me: he said that he has felt neglected & unloved by me…she made him feel bettr. I have treated him with love respect and honor. I have held our relationship very sacred and have tried my best to show him happiness in love. But I guess it wasn’t good enough~ He says he loves me & could never be happy w/o me. I just don’t know, b/c if he truly loved me why would he do this? they will be working 2gether again soon. How do I deal? I am crushed. Also we are walking around like strangers in our home. He asked me to think long and hard b4 I make a decision that will ruin our family, I don’t think he though of our family while he was staring at her breasts. It’s a bad movie that play over in my head. Do you think he actually loves me or is just with me for our children?
He swears to God he never ever cheated on me…He said it was just a stage.

how do i tell my brother i dont want to invite his girlfriend along to my nights out with friends.?

Firstly I think his girlfriend is lovely, I get on well with her and have made the effort, we have gone to dinner together, go get our nails done together and have gone out for drinks and cinema together. I really do think she is lovely.

but thing is my brother bow keeps pitting me in an awkward position, when i see them and we chat about what i have been up to, I front of her he basically tells me i should be inviting her.
For example i was telling them how me and a friend go swimming together, he then butts in and says “next time you should invite Amy along” im put in a position that is difficult to say no because she is sitting there. She has once said “maybe your sister doesn’t want me there” (i think to help get me out of feeling i have to say yes) but that just makes be feel worse. Another example is he asked what i had done the previous night and i said my friends and i take turns at having film nights at our houses, again on front of her “next time you do that you should invite Amy” also he often just says “you should arrange nights out with your friends and invite Amy alone”.

Like I said I like her and do enjoy hanging out with her, but I dont want her tagging along on nights out because 1. I don’t want to have to be the one to look after a grown woman because im the only one she knows 2. I wouldn’t be able to talk openly with friends as I don’t want her reporting back to my brother and 3. I dont want to get too close to the girl my brother will end up treating like crap, I have already found out he had been sexting (dirty texting) a friend of mine for months (not a friend I often see so it would be unlikely they would meet) and he cheated on his ex so i don’t doubt he will do it again. If i got really close to her i dont think i could bear the thought of knowing what he will be doing behind her back, and i really don’t want to get involved.

He just sent me a text saying “i think you should invite Amy out the next time you go on a girls night out with your friends”

I did think about replying “you mean friends like Rebecca” (the girl he had been dirty texting) but to be honest I don’t want to bring up a conversation about that, I know he knows I know, I had an few cross words with rebecca about it and told her to stop texting him, I know she told him I had found put they were talking and I wasn’t happy about it.

how can I politely tell him, I would rather keep her out of my personal life/friendships. I will still be happy to go out with her when its just us.