Your Questions About Teenage Relationships Marriage

Daniel asks…

What are your views on teenage love and marriage?

I’m the type of girl that wonders but never asks or views my opinions until now.
The love I’m talking about is showing your affection towards that one person that will pop in your head when someone says his/her name.
It is also when you give them the power to destroy you, but trust that they don’t.
And marriage should be what makes a relationship divine. Getting married means that something bigger than both of you is bringing you together.
What are your views on teenage love and marriages?
Because remember age is just a number

Lukes Love Life answers:

Teenage love, not so bad. Marriage? I think thats kind of pushing it.
It seemed necessary when people only lived until they were about 40, but with life expectancy on the rise (along with divorce rates being fairly high), my opinion is that if you truly love someone, you can wait until your 20′s. If you break up before your 20′s, you just saved yourself a divorce.

William asks…

What does everyone think about TEENAGE marriage?

I just saw a couple on facebook saying they were getting married.
They are my age. 18! She is pregnant now, and I guess by getting married they are making there family “complete and official”

I just could never imagine getting married this young.
You have your WHOLE life ahead of you, and some, (not all,) teenage boys aren’t really ready to settle with one girl. Aren’t you going to get tired of the relationship? Then its drama when you want a divorce.

What do you guys think?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Marrying basically right out of highschool is way too young. With the divorce rates are already high, marrying at a young age makes it worse. Most of them want to marry jus cuz the idea of marriage…the fun and glamour of planning the wedding, the honeymoon, but the dont realize that after the honeymoon is over its a totally different story. Now that the girl is knocked up is gonna be worse. Well they might have to learn the hard way. Although there is a small percentage of teen marriages that do work but rare

Robert asks…

Societal changes in relationships of teenage girls in the past vs now?

I’m looking to research the way that society has changed over time relationships, like how girls used to get married and have kids at an early age, but now it’s kinda looked down upon in some instances.

Are there any websites that would give information about marriage, relationships, sex, pregnancy, etc for teenage girls in the past or in the future? Or both?

Thanks.
Sorry if this sounds confusing, I’m actually needing this kind of information for a paper. So, if anyone else who answers has sources for their information, that would be great. … or ideas on what to type in the search engine would work.

Lukes Love Life answers:

If you ask google any targeted questions, it’ll churn up a lot of answers.

Http://www.youtube.com/user/reviveourhearts#p/c/41F8579755989735/0/SRQ_JLQ_fM0

The link above has a series of vidoes on how the media has depicted women over the years which might help. Click on ‘you’ve come along way baby’.

Joseph asks…

Is it unhealthy for a teenage guy to bring up talks of marriage in a relationship?

and constantly say he wants to be with the girl “foreverrrrrrrrrr”? Should she tell him this makes her feel a little uncomfortable even if it may hurt him?
he doesnt mean right now but “someday” in years to come, and its been a year of a relationship

Lukes Love Life answers:

Yes, it’s unhealthy…

The proper response to the male teens marriage proposal should always be… “As soon as you move out of your mom’s house and have your education and a good job, I’ll consider it… Until then, let’s just date. OK?”

George asks…

Does chastity in a relationship guarantee a stronger marriage bond?

In observation, many old people who were living conservative lives during their teenage years such as the practice of the virtues of chastity, modesty, celibacy, and purity seems to have stronger bonds, celebrating years of marriage and having a fulfilled marriage and family life.
Don’t you think that the practice of the so called “freedom” these days such as premarital is the greatest contributor to having broken families and wounded relationships?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Human sin is the greatest contributor.

And I do think that chastity in a dating relationship gives you a better chance of sticking together in marriage.

Chastity in dating requires trust and commitment and forward planning and choosing to honour and love each other… All of which are skills required in marriage.

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Your Questions About Womens Health

David asks…

How can i delete my womens health email account?

I’ve been trying for a while now to delete my account from womens health and i dont know how to. They are constantly sending me rubbish emails, ive unsubscribed to the Rodale books thing. HELP !! please lol
thanx xx

Lukes Love Life answers:

These were copied from Womens Health website.

And if all that doesn’t work, then shoot us an email at WHOnline@womenshealthmag.com and we’ll deal with it personally. Be sure to tell us what your username is so we can find your account details.

Head to our Customer Service Center to deal with all things related to your subscription. Having trouble? Give them a call at 1-800-324-1731 or drop them a line at wmhcustserv@rodale.com.
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Enter rodalestore.com in your web browser to bring up their site. You can contact them in there. The one I brought up has a live chat.

Good luck

Lizzie asks…

Does anyone know of any good womens health forums?

I am looking for a good forum, where people actually go on and talk about womens health, contraception etc? Particularly iuds and coils etc

Lukes Love Life answers:

I didn’t watched this forum nearer yet but I will check it I think you could too. Http://www.womens-health.com/boards/

Donald asks…

Why is it that in womens health all you talk about is periods?

I feel like the only thing in womens health is periods and birth control. Its not only womens health like this, mens health is the same except it is semen and penis length. WHY IS EVERYONE SO SELF CONSCIOUS ABOUT THESE NATURAL THINGS???

Lukes Love Life answers:

Because people want to make sure what is happening to them is normal, that it happens to other people too.

Joseph asks…

Is it normal that I browse through womens health part to inform myself?

Is it normal ( and ok), that I browse through womens health part to inform myself?
(I am 16 ….many (especially guys i guess) would think that I should have already had sex and stuff, but I’m pretty unexperienced (which is ok with me) )

Lukes Love Life answers:

Haha i do that too. X

Maria asks…

Womens Health?

i know that it is a baby doctor but what does each letter mean OBGYN

Lukes Love Life answers:

OBstetrics and GYnecology

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Your Questions About Save Relationship Your Boyfriend

Sandra asks…

Is it normal to look at your boyfriend and get mad?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He’s a nice guy and all, but he’s messed up BAD in the past. But I survived and we made it threw it. But latley, I look at him, I remeber all the things he’s done, and I get so mad. I almost want to punch him in the back of his head! I don’t even want to be around him anymore. Is there any way I can control this? Is it too late to save our relationship?

Lukes Love Life answers:

You said it yourself “I don’t even want to be around him anymore.”. Sound over to me.

Robert asks…

What Will You Do If You Found Out That Your Boyfriend Is A Gay?

Have you been on this relationship that accidentally found out that your boyfriend was a gay? I have seen this kind of relationship on TV and I remember that a girl was so mad at her Romanian boyfriend that she burned all her stuff at home. Thank God the whole apartment was save from fire even though the neighbors did not file a case against her but the police itself has done there part and they file her an arson. Share your views.

Lukes Love Life answers:

My ex-boyfriend just came out to me that he thinks he’s gay and it’s really really tough. However, I do love the kid to death so i’m trying to support him no matter what. But right now we’re not together and I’m just giving him space to figure him self out and so i can gather myself together. I’m in pieces, but I know that I can’t change who he is and it’s better that I learned about it now then later. Some day I’ll be able to be friends with him, but right now, I can’t handle it.

Ruth asks…

How can saving sex for marriage help your relationship?

How can it help you and your loved ones relationship? Im a recently saved christian (which is why i don’t know this) and my boyfriend isn’t so i would like to be able to tell him why

Lukes Love Life answers:

The only relationship it will help is the one with the divorce attorney.

Lisa asks…

How do you break up with your boyfriend, when you’ve been dating for over a year?

I’ve been seeing this guy since last March, but recently we’ve been arguing a lot, and don’t talk much. I don’t want to break up over text, I want to do it in person, but I’ve never broke up with a guy before. I don’t really know what to say, or how to react if he tries to save our relationship.. Please help! Thanks in advance!!

P.S. I still want to be friends, just not a couple..

Lukes Love Life answers:

You may find that the ‘being friends’ thing won’t happen. It all depends on how well he takes the news that you want to end your romantic relationship. Regardless, the thing to do is for you to tell him face to face that you do not like the turn the relationship has taken and have decided to call it quits. If he happens to ‘implore’ you to give it another chance or something and you don’t want to do that, then stick to what you said. Then get up and walk away.

Maria asks…

Is saving money with your boyfriend haram?

I have been in a relationship with my “boyfriend” for over 3 years now. We are planning on getting engaged in the next year or so Inshallah. Recently, we have started saving money. We know it’s Haram to save it in the bank, so we have a money box that we put the money in. We put $25 each every week. (That’s all we can afford).

My question is this… Is the money we are saving together considered Haram because we are not engaged or married?

We are saving this money for the future eg. our engagement, wedding, honeymoon etc.

Please – no mean comments or comments about “what your doing is Haram”

Thanks x x x x
RossJulia – I am holding the money box, it’s with me, hidden in my room. How do i go about putting it in an Islamic bank?

Lukes Love Life answers:

What you are doing is not haram if you are of age and independant of your parents. If you are and i would suggest that you offer mutaah to your “boyfriend” so that you are not committing “sin”. And mutaah dosent neccessarily mean that you must have sex with your “boyfriend”. And who is holding the box? I would suggest that you put your money in the islamic bank. In that way it is much proper and so much safer. Jazakallah Khair

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Your Questions About Advice Relationship Breakups

Carol asks…

Help! Relationship advice breakup or stay together?

I was wondering what I should do about my relationship with my partner? We have been going out for about 11 month but around the sixth/ seventh month mark I we both got busy any we stopped romantic activities, while still having intercourse and still hanging with each other. Recently we both have noticed that we lost that romantic spark or bond that we shared. Upon discussing it we said that we both still loved each other in our own way, but not in the sense of intimate partners (less so for me) and we enjoyed each others company like best friend.

I was just wondering, should we try to be more romantic / passionate activities with each other, and see what happens?
(If so how do we prevent these from becoming just another thing on to do that on a list.)
Or
Should we try do more activities that we both enjoy
(But is that just not a temporary solution until the activity ends or one of use grows tired of the activity.)
or
Should we just take a break from dating, but still have a close bond of friendship.

Lukes Love Life answers:

It seems the relationship ran its course. People will find a way if thy truly want to. Sounds like the end

-Shawn

Sharon asks…

Relationship Breakup Advice please?

Cutting this question short to the best i can

(I’m 21 she is 22)
Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 2 and half years now,recently (2-3months ago)we have been slowly drifting apart from each other and i was wondering why we are. Basically i have found some stuff out about me on how i am as a person and etc which makes sense and made me realise and im going to do something about how i am which i have done and i trying my best to change which is improoving alot in my opinion and even my girlfriend has said i have. During the first year we did see each other getting married and everything else but as from about week a go she told me she doesnt see that any more and she does not no why she doesnt, i asked the obvious is there any body else you might of fallen in love with or is it just me she said me which i believe her.
we do love each other madly, love being around one each other and we cant live with out each other (She has even admited the these things to), but it seems to me in her head she has herself convinced that she dont see a future with me,so this is why it has me hanging by a thread in the relationship…. i have been telling her it’s pointless throwing away the 2 years we have and the love and everything else i mentioned up above just from a gut feeling (Sorry i didnt mention she has a gut feeling) i said you cant just go off on a gut feeling can you? she replyed she has done in the past.

I really love her and she really loves me , we just need some advice or are WE JUST BEING SILLY ABOUT ALL OF THIS?

i have mentioned to her perhaps we need a small vacation to get away from things and spend quality time with each other.
Basically BECAUSE WHERE WE ARE UNHAPPY AND WE CANT FIND BALANCE IN THE RELATIONSHIP WE ARE IN A DEBATE WHAT IS THE BEST THING TO DO…SPLIT UP OR STICK TOGETHER.

Lukes Love Life answers:

I think the two of you have convinced yourselves that you are both in love and are dependent on one another for emotional support.

However this doesn’t equal love, rather it sounds like two people who like being around one another, but there is doubt because your girlfriend is looking into the future and she doesn’t see you there with her.

21 and 22 is still at the beginning of the journey of life, trust me, it’s still too early to really understand the true meaning of love that lasts a lifetime.

I think you both should take some time apart from one another and then, after a week or so, see how things are. If there is still distance then it’s time for you both to move on, maybe you can reconnect later on.

Don’t ever expect easy answers or solutions in the journey of love, all you can do is try and try again, learn and keep moving.

David asks…

relationship advice..breakup..?

me (19) and my boyfriend (24) have been together since may, and this past weekend we broke up. we always managed to get over our fights and move on. im really hurt by our breakup because we went through alot and i just dont want to lose him… i havent talked to him since sunday night, i tried texting him on monday but he didnt answer. usually when we fight hell give me the silent treatment for a few days to i guess “prove a point” but im really scared that this is really it…

what should i do? i miss him so much.. should i text him? what should i say?

we werent even fighting when we broke up, it was so random and out of nowhere..

thanks…
we also went through a pregnancy together a few months ago…but it didnt go very well and i lost our child..if that makes you understand a little more why im so attatched..
and as for zodiac, im scorpio and hes pisces.. which are supposed to be made for eachother..

Lukes Love Life answers:

Go! Reach him and talk, express that u cares about him. Remember! Even if you badly need someone’s presence, always never ever express his importance in your life. It may be dangerous.
So always be yourself! Don’t text him, its not a good way because u don’t know other side so go reach him and talk to him straight. If you both keep on maintaining silent then simply you are wasting your time and taking unnecessary tension.

Helen asks…

Relationship breakup advice?

So my girlfriend is 21 and I am 20. We have been dating for about 4 months now and I was crazy about her until yesterday (Valentines day) when she told me she though we should end our relationship. We have never had a fight or have argued with each other. I thought we were on the same page. She said she wants to end it because the “flame is no longer lit.” She told me that this is not my fault. She said I did not do or say anything to make her think this way. She said she the flame died about two weeks ago, and that was about the time I noticed she became friends again with her previous boyfriend on Facebook. I though our relationship was going perfect up until now. This has totally caught me off guard. My girlfriend is bi-polar and is on medicine for that, could that be a contributing factor? She says no, but I think otherwise. The past 4 months have been the best 4 months of my life. She has changed my life for the best and has been a major part of both mine and my families lives. I still have feelings for her as I did when we first met, but I feel like she is giving up on me. How do I cope with this? What are your thoughts? What should I do with this relationship? Can I get this girl back that I saved my virginity for and lost it to?

Lukes Love Life answers:

People change. It really has nothing to do with you. If she’s made up her mind then I don’t think there’s anything for you to do except respect ehr decision but not without letting her know how you feel.

Lizzie asks…

Relationship advice after breakup?

I had my first love with a guy that I was dating for eight months. The breakup came out of nowhere and the excuses he gave me where that we where getting to close, and that breaking up with me was the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. He stayed in the car with me for twenty minutes in awkward silence after telling me he was breaking up with me. Later that evening he had called my sister multiple times, she couldn’t answer because it was so late. The next day I went to get my things from his house and he greeted me with a huge flirty smile and reached to hug me and invited me inside, I backed away and asked for my things. His face turned bleak and white, he then returned with my things and I turned around and walked away. After that two weeks pass and I get a call from him I let it go to voice mail… he says that he has been thinking about me a lot… (It is 10:30 at this time) I ignore it. The next day he texts me saying he has been thinking about me a lot, misses me and hopes I am doing well and would like to talk to me. So I figure ok I guess it’s the only way he will shut up. (Again late at night is when this occurs.) He says he just wants a friendship I say that I need more time which he is fine with. After this a few days later I send him a five page txt explaining why he can’t have me back in his life, nothing harsh very honest about how I felt and I think it really hurt him as he didn’t reply. I have deleted his number and contact info. Forward two months I saw him the other day I was in my car driving away and he was on his bike he stared at my car for a long time as I turned the corner I looked in my mirror and he sunk his head down and continued on his way. I am positive he has started using drugs again and I don’t know what to do. I have been having reoccurring dreams of him wanting me back and I say no and he committs suicide from a drug overdose… I feel guilty and don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to let him in my life again as I feel that would only result in heartache, but I really feel that he might overdose as he had prior to our relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
He was also manipulative and controlling, un appreciative and a lot of times mean to me. There were other good qualities that made me love him, and things I just can’t explain. I feel he has not moved on, I want to move on but still have feelings for him and having feelings for a drug addict, who is a selfish ass makes me want to bang my head against a wall. I feel he broke up with me because he was afraid I was going to cut it off and he wanted to do it first. Everyone of his friends told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to him.

Lukes Love Life answers:

Wow, that looks very sad on his part. After the break up and his attempt to gain you back, this perhaps maybe a signal that he has changed and he is willing to change for the sake of gaining the relationship back. Your rejection might have resulted him to take drugs. As of now, he needs your help more than ever, try to be friends with him again and make him realize that what he is doing is wrong and he needs to change his attitude to have you back again. Getyourexpartnerbacktoday.com

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Your Questions About Relationships Problems Quotes

David asks…

Do we as humans put too much importance on relationships?

I am a freshman in college, and one of my best friends that is a girl set me up with one of her friends that is a junior in high school. We were talking and went on a couple of dates. But, my college is 2 and a half hours away from home. I told her that I don’t think our relationship would work over such a distance considering I would only be able to return home aproximately once every 2 months (which I think is a perfectly logical reasoning, is it not?) and I also told her that I just don’t want a relationship right now. She just doesn’t seem to get it and keeps trying to pull a guilt trip on me, but I think its better for both of us, because if we got into a relationship and it didn’t work out we would end up despising eachother, and I really want to stay friends with her, because she is an awesome girl. I have never had a girlfriend, and part of the reason is because things like this just make relationships so repulsive to me. I also don’t want to ruin my friendship with my friend that set us up, and also this girl’s sister, who I am great friends with. But now I feel like they all hate me. Why do we have to be so commited so soon?

one of my favorite quotes is, “you’re wrong if you think that the joy of life comes principaly from human relationships. God’s placed it all around us, its in everything, in anything we can experience. People just need to change the way they look at those things.” Is this true?

anyways my question is…why do we tend to give ourselves away so easily, because we know it will end in heartbreak the majority of the time? Especially at such a young age.

I feel terrible about the situation, but it was best for both of us. She just doesn’t see that. Will she eventually see my side of the situation?

SORRY FOR THE NOVEL.
THANK YOU TO ANYONE WHO HAS THE PATIENTS, AND KINDNESS TO READ MY PROBLEMS. YOUR OPINIONS ARE MUCH APPRECIATED!

Lukes Love Life answers:

Will she see your side? Eventually, but not soon enough for your situation. Life is full of love and joy, special relationships are a bonus. You need to tell her that her friendship means a lot to you and that you are not looking for a relationship of any other type right now. If these women don’t want to be your friends after you have stated the truth, their loss. Do not start a relationship because you don’t want to lose their friendship or because of peer pressure, you have to do what is right for you. If things are meant to work out, they will work when both parties are ready. Best of luck to you!

William asks…

Quote or Bible quote for a hurting friend?

I’m looking for a good quote from the Bible for my friend. They are having relationship problems & I just want a quote to tell them that everything will be ok & they will make it through this tough time. It doesn’t have to be a quote for the Bible, but that would be better.

Lukes Love Life answers:

2nd Corinthians 12: 8-10

8 – Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.

9 – But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

10 – That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Sandra asks…

what do you think of these single/wisdom quotes? and what do they mean to you?

The Angry Man is Blind for he closes his heart and shuts his mindand in the end all he can visualize is his rage.
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Relationships are like Roses, if the problems are not taken care of the rose will die.
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The one who boasts about His Woman or her Man is a lustful person for love is not boastful only joyful .

Lukes Love Life answers:

1. Anger leads to no solution, you can only wallow in your own rage.

2. I dont agree with the second quote as if people change for the better, a relationship with someone else that hasnt changed in the same way would die and there is nothing wrong with that. (think high school friends)

3. There’s nothing to prove when you have a mate. You dont love what you have, you love what you see in the other person.

Sharon asks…

I have a problem concerning relationships and cars?

Please only answer if you have a well thought out, mature solution to my problem… My step-sisters boy friend ( who is a year or two older than I) borrowed my car about a month ago while I was on vacation and crashed it. It still runs, but the grill is broken and the hood won’t close. It still hasn’t been fixed but he has been saving up money to get the parts so we could fix it ourselves (we were quoted $2600; which is more than half I paid for this used acura… what a rip off). Anyways today he calls me and says that he crashed their car (they don’t like to drive it because it’s illegal) and totaled it. Now here’s my problem. Everyone in my house has jobs except me, I am currently trying to set up an interview, and I know they are going to ask to use my car (and he will probably crash it AGAIN). So what do you think I should do to keep the decent relationship between the three of us and still have my car to use it when I need it (which will be soon if i get this job).
please help asap.
thanks you two.. those were both really good answers… anyways some additional info… number 1) the first car he crashed was mine ( i thought i said that) but it still works… and i dont want him to crash it again, 2) talked to him finally when he got home and he says he is just gonna get a different job closer to home (which he was planning to do anyways) and he asked me to mention him in my interview. 3) so maybe we will both be able to go in my car (and ill drive EVERY time :P )

Lukes Love Life answers:

Be upfront with them, say look I’m sorry but I need my car to get to work, and you aren’t the best driver. I would really appreciate it if you could buy a car for yourself or borrow someone elses car.
That’s what I would do.

Donald asks…

New tattoo quotes, just some ideas please?

Ok so this is my first tattoo and Im a little nervous, but I’ll get over it. Recently I have overcome a drug addiction (cocaine, tabs) and am still seeking help for it. I dont ever plan on going back and Ive been clean for 2 months. As soon as I started to get clean my world came crashing down. My girlfriend who I wanted to marry left me and said she needs time off (a year??) and maybe we can rekindle our relationship after I sort out my problems. She then kicked me out and I am currently jumping from friends houses. My uncle passed away and my ex didnt bother to ask if Im ok just said she cant care anymore….so Im dealing with all of this on my own. I attempted suicide last week and luckily made it through and am now getting even more counseling than I was before. I am looking ahead and trying to look up and forget all the stuff that has been happening….most people would go to drugs again but I refuse! I gave up on all my friends because they were drug users and I really want to get a quote on my upper back that I go back to and remember getting through all of this and coming out better, because I know eventually I will. The one quote I have picked out, I am not sure if its powerful enough….could you share some quotes I can read. I dont want you to pick it, just give me some ideas.

This is the quote I have already, but I think it may be too long for my back across my shoulders. (Im small)

“only if you’ve been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on thee highest mountain”

Lukes Love Life answers:

Congratulations on being 2 months clean. Very good job! Get a sponsor and work the steps and keep going to meetings is the best thing you can do now. In the meetings, speak up and tell people how you feel and what you are going through. About the tattoo….I would wait for 1 year clean before you make any decisions there. Until then, keep your focus on your recovery. Good luck to you.

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Your Questions About Divorce Quotes

Charles asks…

what are great motivational quotes or sayings, if someone is going thru a divorce they really dont want to get

My cousin has 2 kids, her husband has beat her, and she still wants to be with him! im sedning her a card, telling her that im thinking about her , but i want to include and inpirational quote –
thanks for the help, shes going thru counseling and is on antidep drugs, she crys everyday all the time ….
they had been togethor for 10 yrs ….

Lukes Love Life answers:

I do agree with the other poster who recommended against using a quote in your message to her. She’s in the middle of a personal crisis now, and at times like that, flowery-sounding quotes sometimes just don’t strike the right note.

Maybe you could tell her that you want to be there for her, and also those 2 little kids, because it’s not just her life she’s responsible for now, it’s the lives of her children, also.

If there’s physical abuse going on in that home, all 3 of them would be better off somewhere else, though I really do know how hard it is to make that decision and develop a plan to go with it.

Maybe you could do a little research and get a phone number for a crisis center or a women’s shelter or some place where she could call for help and/or housing in an emergency, and include that in your card to her.

It’s good that she has a caring cousin like you! I hope things will go well for her. No woman should stay in a situation where she’s subjected to physical abuse, and no children should have to witness this kind of situation between their parents.

Jenny asks…

Bible quotes on divorce?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Genesis 2:24: Becoming one flesh: The Bible discusses a man “cleaving unto his wife.” “Cleave” is a translation of the Hebrew word “dabaq” which means to make a permanent alliance with (Joshua 23:12, Ruth 1:14, 2 Samuel 20:2). In its noun form, the word refers to soldering two pieces of metal together. Some theologians have suggested that this term refers to permanent actions — those that cannot be undone. Thus, the passage implies that divorce is impossible.

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

William asks…

bible quotes for marriage and divorce?

i need bible teacings for marriage and divorce! do you know any or a good website to go to? please help soon!!! i need it to revise!!! x x x x

Lukes Love Life answers:

Go to the bottom half of the source I cited below and enter “marriage” in the search box and it will give you every verse in the bible (21 of them) containing the word marriage. Do another search using the word “divorce” and you will get every verse in the bible (11 of them) that contains the word divorce.

Some of the more interesting ones (or so I thought) are:

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews13:4)

For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven. (Mark12:25)

It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: (Matthew5:31)

But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. (Matthew5:32)

Actually, I was surprised to find there are several verses that seems to say divorce in fine in certain situations.

Richard asks…

what are some quotes about not knowing who to trust? or having a terrible life?

im in a bad spot in life right now, my grandmother passed away 6 months ago, and i still miss her more then anybody could possibly miss a person, because she was my best friend, and the only one i could trust. my parents are also in the middle of divorce, and that is very very hard for me, because they are not who they used to be, and everybodys lying about what happened, and ughhh. quotes help me ALOT. and i could really use some right now. thanks sooo much guys.

Lukes Love Life answers:

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you” – Friedrich Nietzsche

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” – Benjamin Spock

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” – Ernest Hemingway

“She was like a prisoner in her own home. Sometimes, I think about how she lived a terrible life in the end.” – Toi Kenney

“I lived a terrible life, filled with alcohol, drugs You name it, I was involved in it. I did a lot of ungodly things. You might say I started following the devil instead of the Lord.” – Frank Johnson

“Life is an Amazing, Hard, Wonderful and Terrible Thing and we never come out of it alive .. So live it!” – Paulette Sedgwick

“As life grows more terrible, its literature grows more terrible.” – Wallace Stevens

“Anyone who is faced with something like this that is so severe … It will stay with him for the rest of his life. It is a terrible, terrible situation.” – Stephen Cohen

“The family wants to communicate how terrible they feel about this event and how terrible they feel about the loss of life,” – Daniel Russo

“My life has been unusual. I was born to unusual circumstances, but I’m surviving and going through crap just like anybody else. Sure, it might be on a different level and maybe in a different way, but my life is the same as anybody’s. When people look at any life under a microscope, it might seem terrible, but I’ve met people with worse stories.” – Lisa Marie Presley

“There is something terribly morbid in the modern sympathy with pain. One should sympathize with the color, the beauty, the joy of life. The less said about life’s sores the better.” – Oscar Wilde

“”Face the brutes.” That is a lesson for all life—face the terrible, face it boldly. Like the monkeys, the hardships of life fall back when we cease to flee before them.” – Swami Vivekananda

Donna asks…

What are some quotes that can help me deal with anger?

I need some serious help right now. I’m going through a divorce, I hate my boss and my job, I’m stressed about school. To be honest I want to fight the world because I’m angry as hell. I’m this close to punching my boss in the face and telling him to Foff. Please give me some quotes or help in keeping my rage in check.

Lukes Love Life answers:

The best answer to anger is silence. — a German proverb

“Anger and folly walk cheek by jowl;
repentance treads on both their heels.” — Ben Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanac

“Temper: a quality that, at critical moments, brings out the best in steel
and the worst in people.” —– Thomas Fuller, History of the Holy Warre

“Let anger’s fire be slow to burn.” —-George Herbert, Jacula Prudentum

“I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.” —- William Blake, Christian Forbearance

“Anger begins with folly and ends in repentance.”—- Henry George Bohn, Handbook of Proverbs

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Your Questions About Relationships In The Bible

Donald asks…

Bible question and same sex relationships?

I’m wondering what exactly makes gay marriages so bad. Killing, stealing, and adultery are considered sins as well but it’s pretty obvious why, because they hurt others and God. Gay marriage on the other hand doesn’t really hurt anybody. Thoughts?

1) I know that it explicitly says in the Bible that gay relationships are sinful, so please don’t use it as an answer.
2) If you’re commenting only to say that organized religion is a load of bull, don’t bother commenting.

Lukes Love Life answers:

Think of it like suicide, which supposedly only hurts the one that killed themselves. The gay lifestyle has many unfortunate consequences according to people I know and resources listed below. It also is not the family unit God thought was best. God may be warning us because the victim is ourselves if we chose that lifestyle.Besides doing something which God says we shouldn’t,… Which is no small deal…. There are other worldly factors. And yes, some of theses same things exist in hetero relations too, but not as high an incident.
Earlier death, males late 30s avg and females late 40s. (1)
Former secretary of Ed. Bill Bennett says promiscuous gay life style may take 20-30 years off your life.(2)
Increased rate of NON-HIV STDs (3)
Increased complication related to anal sex. (4)
Increased incidence of Human Papilloma virus (5)
Increased drug abuse (6)
For men 5-7x the rate of domestic violence, for women 8-10x the rate. (7)
Increased rate of suicide (8)
Note, the American Medical Assoc. Says they can NOT prove homosexuality is genetic.
There is far more not listed. Check out the resources.

I am not saying that every gay person is a bad person from a human perspective, but I do believe it is a sin, and sins bring worldly consequences, just like any other sin.
I would add that continuing in something that God forbids and claiming it is not a sin is NOT spiritually healthy. According to 1 Cor. 6:9-10, it seems to imply that gays CAN change. Those wishing help should/could contact KEYs MINISTRY at 507-352-4110. And No I do not hate gays, in fact I know some. I love the sinner, but hate the sin.
I hope this helped some. God Bless!

Robert asks…

What does the bible say about relationships?

What does the bible say about loving someone and being in a relationship? And about commitment?

Lukes Love Life answers:

“What God has yoked together let no man put apart.”—MATTHEW 19:6.

Jehovah god placed the first man and woman together in a relationship that was to last forever. Jehovah wants couples to be married and committed forever. Marriages were not made to breakup

OUR Maker, Jehovah God, instituted marriage as a permanent union between a man and a woman. Says Genesis 2:18, 22-24: “Jehovah God went on to say: ‘It is not good for the man to continue by himself. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.’ And Jehovah God proceeded to build the rib that he had taken from the man into a woman and to bring her to the man. Then the man said: ‘This is at last bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. This one will be called Woman, because from man this one was taken.’ That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.”

True, building a lasting, happy marriage is not easy, but it is certainly possible. Many couples have been happily married for 50, 60, or more years. How do they do it? They work at their marriage continually and unselfishly to “gain the approval” of their mate. (1 Corinthians 7:33, 34) That takes work. If you are willing to invest the time and effort, you too can build a happy marriage, one that will last a long time.

Betty asks…

Anything in the bible about rules on relationships?

Hey i was wondering if there are any boundaries set in the bible for relationship like boyfriend and girlfriend???

Lukes Love Life answers:

Yes there are. Start with the Book of Proverbs..

Nancy asks…

Are there specific passages in the Bible against interracial relationships?

My friend’s family is very conservative. They believe that interracial relationships are against God’s teaching. I was just wondering if there were any passages explicitly against such relationships. Believe me, I DO NOT AGREE with that statement. I’m just wondering if this argument has any adamant support.

Lukes Love Life answers:

To my knowledge, there is nothing in the BIble that directly tells people to avoid interracial relationships. There is a lot in the Old Testament about the Jews avoiding marrying non-believers (like the worshippers of Baal, for example – the Cannanites). However, the jews are semites and so were the Cannanites and so it didn’t have anything to do with race, it had everything to do with religion.

Interracial marriage was quite common back then. One example, is King Solomon and the Queen of Shiba. The Queen of Shiba most likely came from Ethiopia and she was BLACK. That would make the love tryst they had for each other interracial.

In those days, they did not have the racist attitudes that we inherently have here in the U.S. Due to our past history and the bigotry which so clearly enunciates itself in our culture. Note all the far out right wing nut cases that want to kill Obama just because he is black.

I think racism is a form of mental illness. It is an illness passed down, not something you are born with.

I think you have to be brave and stand up for what you know is right and fight the prejudice!

Richard asks…

The bible? and relationships?

Is it in the bible that interracial relationships shouldn’t happen? Is God against it?
Please help this has been a dilemma of mine for a month now, and I just can’t seem to get a straight answer? Is it a sin or against God or Not?

Lukes Love Life answers:

The straight answer is that there has NEVER been anything in the Bible against interracial marriages. In fact, the Bible teaches that every person is of the one same race. The human race.

Everyone can marry everyone (male and female of course). Solomon had an African wife, as did Moses, just for two examples.

Christians should marry Christians, but beyond that, all is well :)

Jesus is Almighty God! Jesus is indeed the Messiah, and Jesus died for our sins there on the cross, and Jesus resurrected from death! To get into the kingdom of heaven, believe in Jesus! That very simple! Jesus loves you so much!

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Your Questions About Happiness Quotes

Paul asks…

Any good quotes on happiness and success?

In my country we have this tradition to write best wishes and motivational things on strips to those who finish a college course. I thought I could start with a quote.

Lukes Love Life answers:

QUOTES ON HAPPINESS –

“Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.” – Bertolt Brecht

“But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?” – Albert Camus

“Make happy those who are near, and those who are far will come” – Chinese Proverbs

“The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.” – C.S. Lewis

“Be happy. It’s one way of being wise.” – Sidonie Gabrielle

“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.” – Dalai Lama

“Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.” – Leon Joseph Cardinal Suenens

“When what we are is what we want to be, that’s happiness.” – Malcolm S. Forbes

“To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness.” – Mary Stuart

SUCCESS QUOTES –

“Success builds character, failure reveals it” – Dave Checkett

“I’d rather be a failure at something I love than a success at something I hate.” – George F. Burns

“I have had all of the disadvantages required for success.” – Larry Ellison

“The success combination in business is: Do what you do better… And: do more of what you do…” – David Joseph Schwartz

“Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.” – Denis Waitley

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.” – Vince Lombardi

“There is no success without hardship.” – Sophocles

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” – Epictetus

“Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility… In the final analysis, the one quality that all successful people have… Is the ability to take on responsibility.” – Michael Korda

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino

Daniel asks…

anybody know any good happiness quotes?

quotes about being happy or pursuing happiness?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened. Dr. Seuss

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been. Mark Twain

Life is like a mirror, we get the best results when we smile at it. Author Unknown

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. Phyllis Diller

Start every day with a smile and get it over with. W.C. Fields

Everywhere you go, take a smile with you. Sasha Azevedo

If you’re not using your smile, you’re like a man with a million dollars in the bank and no checkbook. Les Giblin

Count your nights by stars, not shadows; count your life with smiles, not tears. Italian Proverb

A warm smile is the universal language of kindness. William Arthur Ward

If you see a friend without a smile; give him one of yours. Proverb

People seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile. Lee Mildon

Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful. Thich Nhat Hanh

Flowers are God’s way of smiling. Proverb

Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart. Anthony J. D’Angelo

The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief. William Shakespeare, Othello

A woman whose smile is open and whose expression is glad has a kind of beauty no matter what she wears. Anne Roiphe

Peace begins with a smile. Mother Teresa of Calcutta

If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it. Andy Rooney

If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart.Then in living – I have made my mark. Thomas L. Odem Jr

If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it. Andy Rooney

Don’t cry for a man who’s left you, the next one may fall for your smile. Mae West

A laugh is a smile that bursts. Mary H. Waldrip

Beauty is power; a smile is its sword. Charles Reade

Have a nice day! :)

Joseph asks…

what are some quotes about trying to find happiness?

what are some good quotes about trying to find happiness, even if it means having to be without someone you love the most? thanks in advance everyone x)

Lukes Love Life answers:

Celebrate the happiness that friends are always giving, make every day a holiday and celebrate just living!

Helen asks…

What are some good life,happiness,love etc. quotes?

I am working on a house project…
I need like inspiring quotes you can live life by

Lukes Love Life answers:

There is no charm equal to tenderness of heart – Jane Austen

Donna asks…

What are some quotes about losing loved ones (or loved ones in general),happiness,or good life quotes?

I’m getting a tattoo for my birthday and I want it to have meaning. I’m shooting for it to be around 12 words. Give or take a few. Any suggestions?

Lukes Love Life answers:

It is not length of life, but depth of life. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Another Sunrise, Another New Beginning – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

People living deeply have no fear of death. Anais Nin

To live in the hearts of those we love is never to die. (Thomas Campbell)

Always on my mind; forever in my heart.

Worry ends where faith begins.

Come live in my heart, and pay no rent. Samuel Lover

Do all things with love. Og Mandino

If you want to be loved, be lovable. Ovid

Amor Vincit Omnia (Love conquers all) Virgil

The best proof of love is trust. Joyce Brothers

There is no limit to the power of loving. John Morton

By the time we’ve made it, we’ve had it. Malcolm Forbes

Time brings all things to pass. Aeschylus

When in doubt, take more time. John Zimmerman

All men of action are dreamers. James Huneker

Dreams are necessary to life. Anais Nin

Strivers achieve what dreamers believe. Usher Raymond

When you cease to dream you cease to live. Malcolm Forbes

A man of courage is also full of faith. Marcus Tullius Cicero

In a gentle way, you can shake the world. Mohandas Gandhi

You change your life by changing your heart. Max Lucado

Nobody can bring you peace but yourself. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Peace begins with a smile. Mother Teresa

You cannot find peace by avoiding life. Virginia Woolf

If you can dream it, you can do it. – Walt Disney

He who angers you, controls you.

I am what I am today – not what I was yesterday.

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Your Questions About Help With Relationships In Access

Chris asks…

Microsoft Access: Primary and foreign key in relationships?

Hi there

I am having some trouble with Access that I hope you can help with.

I currently have two tables.

CUSTOMERTABLE:
PK – cust_id
firstname
lastname
street
city
state
postcode

ORDERTABLE
PK – order_id
product_id
prod_descrip
prod_price

I am trying to set them up in a relationship and am wondering if it’s possible to add the cust_id as a foreign key in the ORDERTABLE? I can link up cust_id with order_id in a relationship but the cust_id doesn’t move across as a foreign key like it does in Visio. Is this possible to do?

Many thanks for your help!

Lukes Love Life answers:

You need to add cust_id to the ORDERTABLE and then link it in a relationship view.

John asks…

Should my husband allow me access to his passwords for email/facebook accounts?

My husband has deceived me and lied to me and snuck around behind my back multiple times in the past 2 years. We have been attending marriage counseling which he was gun-ho about until our therapist started telling him he was very wrong for certain things, i.e. sending our private i.m. conversations to his mom and emailing her details about our arguments, inviting her to our house during an argument to be a mediator. He has taken very private info to his friends as well and during my pregnancy a year ago I read through an i.m. history on our comp where he was telling his friend that it’s good that he’s working out because he might be on the market again. he is the step-father to my two children from a previous marriage and the father to my now one-year-old. just recently i found out that he did cocaine on a buddy trip that he took to las vegas for his birthday, with his friends, not his wife (his second las vegas trip in 6 months without me). our marriage counselor thinks if he has nothing to hide then he should allow me access to his passwords but that i should exhibit self-control by not trolling through his private business all the time. she says it creates a security where MUCH is lacking right now. i would like to save the marriage but i can’t help but feel like he is constantly hiding things from me and lying to me. just last night i asked him if he’s been looking at porn (our counselor thinks he has a slight addiction to it) and he said no. flat out – NO. then i said, are you sure? a moment later and he sat quiet for a second and said, maybe a little. the first three years of our relationship i had total access to his accounts and NEVER got into them but began snooping when at 6 months pregnant he pulled away and began staying out all night with his buddies drinking and telling me i was too clingy and that he needed space. i have no trust remaining but feel like if i had access to his accounts it would provide me with peace of mind. what do you think? again, our counselor thinks if he has nothing to hide that he should offer them up but that i shouldn’t be checking them all the time to allow him his privacy. she also thinks he’s trying to live a single life with all his single buddies and that the pregnancy has made him regress and that he’s having an almost mid-life crisis @ 30.
sorry for the novel, but HELP!

Lukes Love Life answers:

No, I don’t think he should have to provide anyone with information he doesn’t want to. Its irrelevant what the situation entails, he is a grown man, and you are not his mother. He is not required to answer to you or to be accountable to you, and it is highly inappropriate for you set these roles or guidelines into play.

If you don’t trust him, work on it or leave. You don’t need his passwords and such to do so.

Robert asks…

MS access.how to create data entry form for one to many relationships?please help?

i have two tables
customer
booking
i created a one-to-many relationship b/w them successfully.
then i created a data entry form for customer and one for booking
but when i tried to enter data in customer form, it failed. Was it due to refrential integrity? how do i solve this problem?how can i enter new data in the customer and booking tables with the relationships existing?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Did you setup the rules and constraints correctly? Booking should refer to customer, but NOT the other way around. And you should create a customer record before creating bookings.

David asks…

Is it possible to import and split data from one Excel spreadsheet into two Access tables?

I’m trying to create an Access 2003 database that will be updated by importing comma delimited Excel files that are provided by third parties. These .CSV files are all formatted using column headers that match up with the column names in the access tables. The Excel files to be imported contain both customer information and project information. The two Access tables contain customer information and project information.

Currently, the Access tables are linked in their relationships via unique customer and project keys in a third table. These keys are auto assigned by the database and not in the Excel sheets being imported. I need a way to have Access split the data from the Excel table into customer information and project information during import and insert the entries into the appropriate Access tables based on column header. I’d like to do this in a macro if possible, but can deal if it requires vba. Any help is appreciated!

Lukes Love Life answers:

Off the top of my head I can think of a couple of ways to accomplish the task, but there may be others as well.

The first (my personal preference) is:
Write code for a command button on a form (in other words, use VBA) that reads the CSV file, extracts the necessary information from each record (i.e. A line in the csv file) and use that to build an Append (or Update) query, then execute the query before reading the next line.

The second way is to build two Import Specifications using the File | Get external Data | Import capability. You probably need two such specs, one for each table — but they both use the same CSV file. I have done it but not for a LONG time, so I don’t remember the details. In each of the specs, you will need to specify which fields to exclude (there are check boxes for that).

Sorry I can’t tell you more than that.
Good luck and have fun learning.

Donald asks…

Access 2007 using information from one to many relationship in vba?

Ok, so I am a little new at this. Basically I have table A which stores the primary key from table B. Now I actually also need some accompanying information to be able to due some calculations from table B, but I don’t know how to access that accompanying information from the vba module in from the form that is associated with table A. Please help, Thanks!

Lukes Love Life answers:

You need to do an inner join

select * from A
INNER JOIN B on A.fkey = B.pkey

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Your Questions About Stages Of A Teenage Relationship

James asks…

Have you ever had a Sexual relationship at a teenage stage of your life?

Lukes Love Life answers:

No I didn’t

Laura asks…

Help with this teenage relationship?

Ok, so me and this guy are like best friends. We have this mutual bond over music, and fashion, and a lot of other things. We were talking on facebook, and I told him, “call me because I am about to get off”. In no less than a minute, he called. We just talked from about 20 minutes. He told me the story about the Ugly Barnacle, and when we were hanging up, he said”Goodnight, and I love you” in a playful way. He caught me by surprise too.He is always talking about relationships and dating around me, and says stuff like I am going to hook you up with so and so, or I bet this guy can “bag” you and things like that.We always see each other every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Saturday. Today we are in the hugging stage. One of my other friends was walking around giving out hugs and he was like, hugs for everybody, and then he hugged me, and then when my mom came in to get me, I was walking down the hall with my mom on the left, him in the middle, and me on the right. I told her the story he told me about the Ugly Barnacle. Before I left, he hugged me again right in front of my mom. I thought it was sweet because he is a real gentlemen, and I actually enjoy his hugs. What should I do, and does he like me? How long before I should ask or he should ask? What else could I do to get to this dating stage?
OTHER INFO: We are also reading this book called The Hunger Games, and in class we were talking about the relationship between Peeta and Katniss, and Katniss and Gale, which is weird because we have an awkward relationship like they do.

Lukes Love Life answers:

Lol, be like ” (FILL IN NAME) YOU ARE NOT LEAVING ME AND GOING OFF TO DISTRICT 2!” So yeahlol, just wait for him to ask you out. Maybe he’s very social and does that to all girls?

Thomas asks…

At what stage in a relationship do you think is the right time to be introduced to their children?

I’m referring to children from a previous marriage that ended years ago.
Is it normal to feel scared that by becoming involved in that side of your partner’s life it may cause problems between you?
He has already told me that a previous relationship was ruined by his ex-wife brain washing their teenage daughters and causing trouble!

Lukes Love Life answers:

It is scary. My mum was introduced to her BF’s daughter and she was so scared because she didnt no what to say, what she liked, etc, but the kids will make it easy for u. I think it should be fine, as long as you dont tell them things they shouldnt hear, or lie to them to get on their side, because that wont work, u jus need to be there as a friend and then they will get closer to you when they feel comfortable.

Charles asks…

i need help on some relationship stuff.?

lets see okay so..my boyfriend dumped me because he got scared after he told me he loved me…we were apart for a week..then he decided he REALLY thought we should get back together and that he made a huge mistake in dumping me…while we were broken up, i was SOO hurt, and the whole time i wanted him back so badly , and now i got what i wanted . the only problem is, now, since he hurt me so bad before, im soo afraid of getting my heart broken yet again..im trying to proceed with caution but i mean i wish i could get over my fear of him doing it again but at the same time, i feel like its inevitable cause teenage love and all. does anyone know how i should go about these beggining stages of my”re-relationship“. oh yeah, also, our relationship before we broke up went on for 3 months. thanks so much.

Lukes Love Life answers:

I remember those days. ;) Saying I love you means a lot. It is normal for a boy to freak out about what he said. But, you should be happy that he realized that he really did want to be with you. It’s not like he dumped you because he was interested in another girl. He just needed some time to think about it. But, you are right you should be cautious. I would even tell him that you are worried he will hurt your feelings again. Be upfront and honest. Don’t play games, it won’t get you anywhere. You are still in the stage of getting to know one another too. But since you’ve both said you love eachother, you should feel comfortable sharing all of your feelings. Remember, you’re still both young and even if it doesn’t work out between you and him, it’s definitely not the end of the world. There are tons of guys out there! :)

William asks…

Is getting engaged at this stage a good idea?

My boyfriend and I have been together now for over a year, and we are madly in love. We talk about getting married, and living our lives together. Our engagement would be a few years long, until we are at the same point in our lives due to career choices. He is 21 years old, and I will be turning 19. We lead mature lifestyles, no drama or anything of the typical teenage relationship. He is in the military, and I am in college. I’m asking this question just to hear different views on the subject. Please don’t lash back at me with, ” if you’re asking this, you’re not sure of yourself/not mature enough”, etc. Another important note is that we know everything about each other, the good and the bad. We accept each other for all the things that have happened in the past that we might not agree upon, and we learn to work through it. I believe that has made us even closer. This is a very supportive and loving relationship, and we have no problem communicating with each other no matter what the subject. Well, anyway I will stop rambling about my relationship so you can answer this question. Thanks everybody!

Lukes Love Life answers:

Well…Id hate to say it couldnt work, in fact, it would be really great if it did. I always wished I had met my husband sooner in my life so I could have spent more time with him. But then I think…well, would we have gotten together if we met 10 years before??? The answer is, probably not. So I think it goes like this (at least in my head)…50% of all marriages end in divorce, and that number is even higher for couples who marry under 25. The odds are against you, BUT…hey, for all of those relationships that didnt work…another one DID work, right! So thats that, I just want to say one last thing and its from personal experience. I married at 19, and was very happy for a long while. People always said we seemed like the perfect couple, and we thought so too. As I grew (I felt like he wasnt growing along side me), things changed and we ended up divorcing. I went on with my life and after many years met another man, and married him (my husband now). The difference btwn these two men is VAST. And when I think about my earlier marriage, I wonder how we ever got along bc Im so different than he is (now). This just goes to show you that as you age, you will change, becoming more and more set in your own ways, more and more confident about who you are, and less and less willing to sacrifice “the real you” just to save the marriage. What ends up happening in these instances…unhappily married people, or divorce. My point is that this could very well happen to you. You marry now, you change as life goes on, and divorce. OR…you marry now and you grow together, you beat all the odds and you make it. That would be great! It really could go either way. That said, divorce is awful and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. So…maybe you could just wait a lil bit longer and see how it goes. If youre meant to be, then it will all work out in the end. But…if its not meant to be, youll find out before youre married. I hope this helps Hun. Bottom line, your heart will tell you whats right for the two of you. Make your decision and stand by it, thats all. We are all just strangers, youre the only one who truly knows if this is “it”.

PS: I feel inclinded to tell you, if you were my daughter Id beg you to wait. Heres why, btwn 22 when I divorced and 28 when I remarried, I had the TIME OF MY LIFE!!! I finished college, accepted a really great job, bought a home (in my name and only my name), created a savings account, traveled and even worked overseas, I met lots of new people and went on some amazing dates with gorgeous men, had a few relationships that I still have fond memories of….all in all, I wouldnt trade in those single years for anything. And you may not think you need that stuff now…but as you age, you just may want a lil freedom before you commit for life. Food for thought….thats all….

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