Your Questions About Advice On Relationships For Teenagers

Relationship advice please help?

So I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now, and everything had been going great except for this one problem. She likes to go out and drink with her friends and always wants me to come with her, she is a complete lightweight and she is not fun at all to be around while drunk. I don’t drink cause alcohol has destroyed my family so I refuse to drink (my girlfriend does not know that and not a lot of people do). I also refuse to fall into any peer pressure to start drinking cause I think peer pressure is the most stupidest thing to do to someone, so I avoid it. I’m worried that I’m putting a damp on her fun and your only a teenager once so why hold her back? We’re not in any EXTREMELY serious relationship. I just feel bad cause she should be able to have fun and not deserve me ditching her all the time, but I don’t like being around her when she’s drunk, I don’t like drunk text from her, and I don’t like hearing stupid things she’s done. What should I do?

need advice re bad relationship with mother?

I have a bad relationship with my mother, we never really got on. I’m the eldest of five children and have always felt that my mother has scape goated me for her unhappiness. She sees me as useless and as no “asset” to the family. When I was younger she repeatedly told me that I had “brought a bad element into the house.” she constantly criticised me, particularly for being over weight. As a teenager she told me that I would never amount to anything and that my younger siblings would be more successful.She constantly told me that I was “odd” and was the very same as my father’s mother ( who she didnt get on with). I dont have a great relationship with my siblings- I always felt like I didnt fit into the family and find it hard to relax around them. Basically i feel like I cant be myself when I’m with my family. when I was in school my mother constantly compared me to other students academically, which I think has had a really negative affect on my self esteem. I think that my mother does have a huge problem with me and that the underlying reason is resentment. I never received encouragement from her and the only feed back I get from her is negative. I went to college and graduated but decided to move home (prob not the smartest move),the main reason being to save money. things have gone form bad to worse with my mother- I think I’m at the point where I no longer want a relationship with her. When I moved back she made it clear that she wasnt hapy about it and that it was going to be on her terms. thats fair enough, but she has treated me unbelievably badly.She is constantly trying to pick fights, making snide remarks- it’s very difficult to live with. i think she sees me as a failure because I’m at home, however I’m working & saving money and will be gone asap. things have gotten very bad between us on a few occasions with her packing my bags and getting my father to drive me to a bus station. Once I had to stay in a hostel for a week. This happens when I go against her, the last time I was thrown out was because her phone was ringing and I didnt answer it. My father stood up for me once, but at home nobody goes against my mother as she is a tyrant.She has told me that nobody wants me at home and that they’re all so much happier when I’m not there. In my experience my mother always finds somebody to fight with, so it doesnt matter if I’m there or not she will always be unhappy. At the moment I’m trying to keep away from her as much as possible and I’m counting down the days till I leave- I’m seriously considering cutting off contact with her when I leave. I’m just wondering does anyone have any similar experiences, or any advice? sometimes I wonder if I’m over reacting but this is how I feel and dont see it changing any time soon

How to resolve a problem with my mom?

Okay so I am a 16 year old teenager who needs advice in the relationships with my mom. We had a same old conflict with my mom few days ago about how I an my brother don’t do anything to help her. The house is not clean enough or why do you vaccuum it in the morning when everything gets dirty At night. Then she says the dogs is itching were you are walking with her she got bites and fleas and deer ticks. Than look at the cats they all are hungry ( how can they be hungry if I personally feed them 3 times ) cats have fleas you sit all day doing nothing I am the only one who is working and now people will say that I have full house of fleas and that is all because of you. She constantly repeats that her life was much better with her ex husband who was beating her than with us, her life turned into screaming. She always says that it is my fault that window is broken or it is my fault that house is dirty or that is my fault that stove thingy broke or I always broke her glasses an they hide from that I did. She says that i keep on the onditioner for all night when I am not bit she still does not believe she says there is bill for 130 dollars for electricity because you are burning your conditioner . I give 200 bucks and saying go pay the bill if you think it is all because of the conditioner which I barely keep on for 2 hours a day and she says I don’t your money they not going to help me you are 16 and you are not working everyone who I am talking to say that it I’d weird that we should go work and give all our money to her instead of buying a bag or a computer. One of her favorite phrases is that I and my brother all sit in tw duckingovies and don’t do anything to help her that we should get out of the house and leave her alone. Today I called but she never answered at 11 p.m. She came from work and I asked her can she drive me tomorrow at 8 30 to new work
she said no because her client died an no her schedule is moved and her clients are more important than my job.Help

Like this girl a lot, cant keep a relationship?

So theres this girl, who I like A LOT! We have been going out on and off for the past 2 months now. Pretty much what happens, is we go out for about 4 days, and then she dumps me, we get into a argument about it and stop talking to each other for a few days, and then we apologize to each other and end up back together and repeat. Its happend I think 4-5 times now.

Now almost every single one of my friends tells me to get rid of her, but I really just cant, I like her WAY too much. She told me recently why she breaks up with me, she said its because she will like me a lot before we start going out, then we will start to go out and for some reason she just stops liking me. I think its her being bipoloar/immature really, but I also think its my fault a little bit because when we go out there is a akwardness when we see each other.

Anyways, I just need some advice on KEEPING the relationship, and maybe some things I could talk to her about before we go back out again, like plans to where she wont just break up with me because shes in a bad mood or something, we both like each other a ton.

Pleasseeeee if you have anyhting to say, post it here! If you need me to provide more details, ask for them! thanks!

P.S. We’re 14, so yea…teenager advice, not adult. Thanks
Yes I agree to the “chase” thing, thats why its so akward. Because once were finally together its like “okay….now were going out? this doesn’t feel right…”

And I know its weird if she just likes me one day and doesn’t the next, she is a very bipolar person though, everyone who knows her well agrees with me.

I need advice, on my relationship.?

Well I’m a teenager, and i go through alot, i’m on my last year of highschool, and i already think im in love. But there is a problem, you see my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend is crazy, and she wont give him up, everytime i turn around she is there in our relationship, he does not want her back for one because she’s a compulsive liar and she cheated on him. im just confused because i cant have him like i want to because she is never going to stop trying to ruin our relationship, i would be in class concentrating, and i get about 30 new text messages from her, saying your man says he loves me, and flirts with other girls, and you’re getting played. Im really tired, my happiness is limited and i shouldnt even be going through all this my focus should be on school, but i mean i dont see my self as the problem i see her as the problem, i just dont know what to do any more, my mom say be strong and stick it out until i graduate. but damn how much can a girl take? [sorry for the length]
I dont like to fight over boys, i just want her to stop so i can be happy, i just want her to move on and let me be, i wanna give up so bad and the worst part his Me and him dated a year back, and we broke up, decided to take a break and she knew that and she used to be my BESTFRIEND, and she asked him out and he said yea so that she wouldnt run off and kill her self, because thats the type of person she is… but he realized she wasnt what he wanted, and he planned on getting back with me the whole time, so when he breaks up with her 1 1/2 week later we get back together. i know it may seem wrong because we were bestfriends, but she was one of those two faced females ones who talked about you behind your back to females that you didnt get along with, and plotted to ruin your life and call you out your name, insult your mother who has cancer. its ridiculous noone should ever befriend someone like that.