Your Questions About Fear Of Relationships Break Up

I feel like im too good for my BF but im afraid to break up with him cause i fear i may never get another?

this guy i just started dating is cute, i like him, or liked im not sure. ok so my ex friend told someone i liked him and everyone says like “ew” and stuff so im kind of doubting my feelings for him. cause everyone is saying stuff and i fear my sister might say im too good and hes just trashy or whatever she usually says. anyway i fear if i break up with him i might never get another boyfriend not because im ugly or anything i have good self esteem but its just that im homeschooled and i dont have very much friends so i think ill never meet another guy soon. or should i just forget the whole thing since were just 2 fourteen yearolds and its nothing serious?. i dont know. what should i do?. or am i just feeling this way cause our relationship is official since 3 days ago we had said when we texted and i havent seen him and talked to him since a week ago…

why do I feel soo much anxiety, fear and self hate over a break up?

it started when my son’s father left me… well I left him and kicked him out because of excessive drinking and irresponsibility with money. But he tried to get me for a long time… I knew it wasn’t real.
When he finally gave up and met someone, it triggered panic attacks, and feelings of abdonment.
I wanted him back… I ended up meeting someone and dated him for about a year, and he just broke up with me. I again am overwhelemed with anxiety, fear, I want to just die, I cry for hours till I’m exhausted and I have a headache. I don’t even want him back, it’s just the rejection. My mom left me, my dad abused me. Both sides of my family left me for dead. I’ve been on my own since I was 16. I used to be able to date, and let go, sometimes it would hurt if I got dumped. but now as I’m older.. something snapped with my son’s father. he was my pillar. My most recent ex, wants to be in my life still, and we hung out the other night… so it’s relieved a lot of the panic. I hate being alone. I like to go out to festivals, and events and just being around people… what is up with me, how can I fix this. I’m so afraid of getting into another relationship for fear of the attachment, and loosing someone again.
the panic and anxiety gets soo bad, that I look for any type of relief, if it’s to drink a beer or two, make a very strong cup of herbal tea, smoke or eat pot, or take a small dose of xanax.. I have to do this to calm down to function in my life… yeah I’m seeing a counsler…

Anyone knowledgeable about relationships – should I break up with him?

Me and my boyfriend have been in a serious relationship for a year. We’ve discussed getting married in the next year or two. I do love him, and always thought I’d marry him….but:

He has a panic disorder – he freaks out sometimes, which I never know what to do about. The first time he freaked he called his mom in front of me and cried on the phone with her. He’s also had three panic attacks. He refuses to face his fears, saying he has no reason to.

He also seems to never have time for me-he has a hard time juggling work, school, family, friends, and me. We do see each other once or twice a week, but he’s so anxious about making those plans that I always feel as though I’m taking him away from something else.

Lastly, I can’t even really discuss this with him. He starts going on about how much he has to do and how much pressure he’s under and how everyone expects too much from him. Our last discussion ended with me apologizing for being too controlling. When he gets stressed and upset, he yells at me until I cry. When I get upset about something he’s done, he yells at me until I cry.

Would it be in my best interest to break up with him? It would really hurt, but I’m young, hardworking, and cute – I can find someone else who treats me better, is more stable, and is there for me. Or, I could go with my heart and marry my bf. What do you think??? Feedback, please!

Relationship break up what to do?

My b/f (age 31) of 1 1/2 yrs and I (age 29) broke up 3 weeks ago and at first I thought it would pass but as the days have progressed so have his thoughts on how sure he is that we do not belong together. I realize he made mistakes, still flirted with girls while we were together (he loves attention from women). He never cheated on me.

However I can’t help feel guilty as though I took advantage of his love for me. I felt so in control and I just took all he gave me. I was rude to him, crticized him, and it was all justified in my mind because I also did so much for him. I built him him but also brought him back down. I don’t know why I did all that but it was because I was insecure, empty, angry, and wounded inside. I was like 50% the best gf on earth and 50% mean

He began talking with girls soon after our break up (within days) and decided he would rather party on Friday nights. he’s gone out 2 weekends in a row…not sure if this is rebellion or if that’s just what he wants to do. He said he is enjoying his freedom.

I feel bad and empty. I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do. I miss him and I love him. I am losing hope for our relationship though. He keeps telling me he “can’t” be with me again because we are too damaged and that he was unhappy. What role should I take? I begged my ex for the past 3 weeks and I feel he has let go already. He’s done and wants to only be friends. I just feel confused and hopeful when he is nice to me. I can’t handle this any more.

He beggs me to be friends still…and he says he’s forgiven me yet he keeps saying he needs his freedom and that he can’t be with me. I fear he has someone else already, I know he is texting girls and I don’t know if I should just let this all go…

Last we spoke he is moving out. Not sure exactly when but he said asap. I want to fight for us but that has gotten us no where in 3 weeks. I can’t be mad at him cause I love him. I begged him to forgive me for all I did and I’m not sure if he would change all he did though.

I know I’m making it out to be like I was osme kind of monster but I wasn’t. I was a great gf just with a feisty side. What do I do?

I feel guilty and have a lot of anxiety after long term relationship break up and contacting old guy friend?

so i been in a relationship for seven yrs on and off of course we started dating when i was 15 and im 21 now,We grew up together before we dated had the same friends and a guy we both were friends with(we had a thing before my ex and i ever even knew we liked each other) so the guy friend and I had got really close became best friends did everything together never dated we finally admitted yrs later we had feelings for each other(still before my ex was even thought of) we never dated and eventually i got with my ex and we been together off and on. He dated Other girls in between and i ended up getting with the first guy I mean we always wanted each other since i was 12 and i really care for him, we always joked saying we will date other people and then we will end up finding each other and getting married. but the reason my ex and i broke up is because he wanted to.He and i have a lot of trust issues from the past such as me and his friend which was also my friend(HE DID THINGS REALLY TERRIBLE ALSO WITH MY COUSIN ) But we had been ok and i have grown up just wanted respect and all and he seemed to be young mentally still and he was stuck on my past mistakes its been yrs and he let it get to him enough to break up with me.I love him always will but i know that we will always have trust issues and our priorities in different orders and seven yrs is enough of going back and forth I missed growing up to be in a serious relationship and i need to let it go its whats my brain is telling me.We have been arguing for a while and broke up this wk, but basically been done all month.So today i contacted my old guy friends sister to see how he is and she said he lives in another state, so I asked “does he have a phone he can use or a girlfriend that would mind me talking to me him?” I didn’t want to inter fear if he did and she said he is with someone so i said ok “i just wanted to know how he was i have not seen him in a long time’….So here is when the drama starts i get a text from a random num saying “you want more info on him well he is married so fu*k off ” I was shocked his sister gave my number out I didn’t want no problems or anything just to talk but not cause issues.I just told her “im happy for you guys congratulations”…..now I feel guilty for contacting him because it will get to my ex and cause issues(he gets mad and is still passive) and i worry like will get back together and it will be one more thing i have to have held over me! I know dont get with him again! I dont plan to im just use to the same routine of breaking up and getting back together..Im so confused why i feel so stupid and that maybe I did that to early in the break up and i will look shady and like i am over things, which im not i just figured i would contact him..I didn’t want this to happen and didn’t know i would feel guilty but i do can. I get some advice please..? Im scared to find out what my ex will do or if he finds out! And I am mad my num is given out and that the old guys girl did that..should I feel so bad i contacted him right after a long term relationship?