Your Questions About Healthy Relationships Lesson Plans

sex education for 5 year olds?

Hello, my son has recently started reception in London. What I need to know is when these plans for “relationship lessons” for 5 year olds are expected to comence. I would definately like to take my son out of such lessons as I believe he is still too young to be shown graphic pictures of the differences between male and female bits and I would prefer to teach him about healthy relationships myself. I dont need the state to educate my child about such personal matters, I can do it myself. Thank you for your help.

Ladies, can i still win her back?

We’ve been together for 6 years. We spent the 1st 4 months on fire, then i had to go to grad school for 4 years and it was long distance relationship then. in that 4 years, we were together 2-3 months a year. had usual problems: trust, communication, etc, but nothing relationship ending. we were serious, and planned about family, house, etc.

then 2 years ago i went back home to fulfill life with her. told her to wait a year so we could prepare for it and i could give her the great life that a wonderful woman like her deserves. she is 3 years older than me, at 30, and was more eager to get married. but we wer ok.

last year was a disaster for me – business, health problems in the family, career. i was shaken to the core, and partly i blamed her for not being there and at times holding me back. but i never told her about it and just kept it. this made us drift a bit tho. and it was obvious as we got colder to each other. i told her just hold on, we’ll get thru it. in my mind, i though shed be ok (than i was), she has a great career, healthy family, and solid support structure. we cruised thru later part of 2010 like this, just getting by, but deep inside i was just healing from all the problems and i planned id get it all together on our 6th year on feb 2011 and ask her to marry me.

all this time she has been asking for space, but we always ended up just ok, usual. this is my mistake when i think about it, i simply underestimated her feelings.

as i was preparing for the big day, 3 days before she asked to meet me. she wants out. or rather “i dont want to loose you, but i have to find myself” i was too shocked to react. 2 days later, or 1 day before the supposed “big day”, we talked. and she dropped bomb after bomb. “there is a void” “im afraid ill regret it” “we never really grew together” i pleaded “we can grow together” “we’ll free each other in our love” but shel have none of it. i never cried harder in my life.

a week later we met for lunch. basically processing things. then she said “relationship is like a dance” heart dies. i was too devastated to hear what she was saying after that. the a week later, we lunched again. i asked her about the dance thing. she said “there is no destiny. everyone is beautiful.” in half plea, i said love is also a choice, that i entered into our relationship planning it to be the best 2 lives ever lived together. and asked her if in her heart she has hope for it. she said she had already made the decision. and it was best for us to move on completely. i died, but tried not to panic or let is show.

she apologised, but i apologised ahead to prevent her to think its ok now that it was her fault. she still touches me, in a friendly manner, and tells me shell always be there for me. i dont react to it. then she says that this is a lesson for future relationship(s). i look at her but still not react because i dont want her to think that im giving up or i was explicitly allowing her to pursue it. it was mature talk, and i never text/call terrorize her all thoughout the “break up”.

im really broken now. she gives me no hope. i want to fight it but her coldness and ruthless ness is shocking. she is the most loving and mature woman i know. “relationship experts” who advise “psychological triggers” and “make her jealous” scheme is idiotic, she is just too mature for that. another advise i get is cut contact for 3-4 weeks, then get in touch with her and win the attraction back without dwelling on the past. which im gonna do. but looking at it he is really giving me no hope. only thing im clinging to is that most say ALL relationships can be saved, and we had 6 years, it might count for something.

ladies, what do you think. is there slightest hope?

Teaching positions in Saudi!?

I know teachers get paid well in Saudi with accommodations [etc].. especially ESL/English Teachers. My question is that I need to find a teaching job and secure that position by the end of September. Possible, with this sort of a resume? (look down) I will be coming just with my son who is 14 years old on a 12 month contract (if possible) just out of sole desire.

Objective:

English Language Teacher preferably in the Middle East. Dedicated to age-appropriate instruction utilizing, multiple instructional strategies, technology and thematic study focused on education and English.
Profile:

15 years of successful teaching experience to young children of all ages. Able to understand child’s psychology and develop quick rapport with them.

Work Experience:

Allouette Children Center
Vancouver, Canada (July ‘09 – Present)

•Assist in the educational and social development of pupils under the direction and guidance of the head teacher.
•Supervise students in the cafeteria, schoolyard, and hallways.
•Prepare and present displays of student’s work.
•Supervise low organized games and outdoor free play; maintains order and monitored activity to prevent accidents and injuries.
•Provide instructional and clerical support to classroom teachers, allowing teachers more time for lesson planning and teaching.

Highland Creek Montessori Pre-School
Toronto, Canada (Sept ‘06 – Sept ‘08)

•Worked as an assistant teacher; Fostered meaningful relationships with students, parents and other educators to create a warm and attractive environment in which all can cooperate and learn.
•Assisted the teacher in designing and developing lesson plans to educate each and every child.
•Created lesson plans to engage students in meaningful learning situations while providing for all needs of all learners.
•Engaged in effective and appropriate classroom management techniques.

Home Day Care – Baby Sitting
Toronto, Canada (July ‘03 – Sept ‘06)

•Created a happy and healthy environment that helps children to grow.
•Developed a balanced growth plan for children that focused on the spiritual, mental, emotional and physical aspects.
•Assigned each child age-appropriate tasks to perform that relate to the plan.
•Cleaned clothing as needed.
• Choose food for children according to the age.
•Gave appropriate medical treatment when needed. Performed appropriate arrangements for safety of children.

Springfield School
Karachi, Pakistan (Jan ‘97 – Oct ‘02)

•Taught Grade 1 & 2 students, Math, English and Science.
•Designed and developed complete lesson plans.
•Encouraged a sense of curiosity and deeper understanding of inter-disciplinary subjects through thematic study.
•Enhanced student’s academic and social growth by using varied activities and teaching strategies.

Beacon House School
Karachi, Pakistan (June ‘88 – July ‘91)

•Taught students of Grade 1 and Grade 2, English, Math and Science.
•Created complete lesson plans and provided opportunities for students to become lifelong learners.
•Graded the home assignments of students and prepared their academic progress reports.
•Organized ‘play days’, contests and structural learning sessions.

Educational History

B.A University of Karachi, 1988

References are available upon request.

Should I tell his new girlfriend he cheated on her with me?

Hello,

Posting my thoughts to get advice is not my usual thing. But I’m in a pickle and as my friends are sick and tired of my complex love story, I hope someone will have the will to read and reply. Also, very interested in objective advice.

Long story cut short, I’ve been in a happy and serious (living together, planning life etc…) relationship for 3.5yrs. Though relationship was healthy, the guy had some personal issues that were definitely unhealthy. I tried to help suggesting professional help, the whole thing blew up in my face as pressure on him was perhaps too much. But mainly, think he’s just not ready to look into himself, and probably will never be. Result, it was all my fault, I was useless and he didn’t love me anymore (according to him of course).
So we break up, I move out, only for him to come back saying ‘there is still something there’ and we date for another 1.5yrs. All seemed to glue back to normal, though his continuous unwillingness to grow up and face his (or any other) issues annoyed me constantly. Having said that, we had a few very good ‘make up’ holidays (my suggestion), followed by lovely Xmas with his parents (his suggestion) and I thought we were moving towards the right direction.
On new years, I suggested us moving back in together, point at which he dumped me again….turns out also, his friends didn’t even know we were working things out so he probably had a few other girls on the go….

I’ll save you the how hurt, being made a fool of etc…I felt, as really you can see that I have to be slightly insane myself to have hung onto him for so long. So really, I knew the risk I was taking but now….I’m pissed off

In the last 6 months its been confusion all around. We were not/or together, we kept constant contact (bad, good, loving, hating…the lot). Turns out, he started seeing someone else…10 yrs younger and is now ‘officially’ in a relationship. He did say that to me only recently and via text.

Point of all this is….I will see him this week to talk. I know that I won’t hear what I want to, so now I’m just wondering what do you people think would be the best course of action? I could do the mature thing of walking away as he will ruin the next relationship himself anyway…or, I could walk away after what will be our last argument, call her and make sure that some other soul is not blissfully happy on my expense.

NOTE: Before you start ‘I’m only doing this to get back at him’…I’m not pretending its not the case. The main problem is that I love the him, think always will and hate myself for being unable to let him go. So as awful as it is to inflict pain to a 3rd party, I just wonder if this is not the best way to ensure he hates me. That way there would be no going back, and while I’m partially saving her some future hurt, he gets a lesson.

Remember, I am very angry at the moment and yes my plan is a selfish one. But considering I’ve always put him first, isn’t it time I take care of myself? Is it worth to hurt a third party if its going to put an end to my misery?

Thank you.

How can I make my favorite teacher at school want to talk to me again after him saying that he never wanted to?

I’m a 17 year old girl, and there’s this teacher 36 years older than me at my school who taught me in 2009. He hasn’t taught me since than and I miss him so much. Once I hurt his feelings by telling him some demonic comments that my friends had said about him. He was upset for 6 days, and I was too upset to come to class because It hurt me that I had hurt him. Then I felt really bad about it so I wrote a letter to him to say that I was sorry. At the end I said I love you. The next day was the last day of school and some teachers told me that I wasn’t allowed to go to my very last maths class because I made him feel uncomfortable. This made me very upset because for the last few weeks I had been worried about how I would cope with him not teaching me anymore. After when I came back to school for exams I was surprised that he was nice to me. He said that we could be friends, and that I was innocent because I didn’t know that I wasn’t supposed to say that I loved him. I said that I didn’t love him like that. I missed him so much in the holidays and when school started again, I gave him my phone number and asked him to text me so that we could be friends. After i gave it to him he said that I had to stay away from him because the note was inappropriate.
I started to get really obsessed with him even though I wasn’t allowed to talk to him. Than finally after about a year I was allowed to talk to him again. I wanted him to help me with my maths but he said that he doesn’t teach me. I said that he taught me last year. He said I don’t teach you this year. I became really upset about him and couldn’t do my work. What hurt me the most is that I was relying on him and he was never there to help me. Other teachers that Iv’e had in previous years are usually willing to help me with my school work when they “don’t teach me”, but have taught me before.
My favorite teacher is really benevolent to other people and used to be like that to me too except that he is indifferent to me now. He never has yard duty or relief lessons because he organizes that for other teachers. He is supposed to manage kids’ behavior. Sometimes Iv’e tried to get a detention on purpose so that I could see him.

This year after saying that he never wanted to see me again on the last day last year we started off with a healthy relationship and he said we could even be friends and have short conversations than a few days later he suddenly said that he didn’t want to talk to me ever again because I came to say hello during lesson time. He doesn’t like to talk much and he has been going on about the fact that he literally just wants to say hello to me. When I see him in the corridor I say hello to him as I walk past him. He ignores me on purpose by screwing up his face and looking grumpy and looking down so that he can’t see my face. He just wants me to leave him alone but I find it really hard because I have this strong platonic love for him. The only reason I go to school is because he is there. I don’t have anyone to talk to about him or anyone to help me come up with a plan to do something that will make him forgive me for being annoying. I want to know when we can talk really badly. I’m been trying really hard to stay away from him and leave him alone because I think that’s what he wants but it’s really hard because he is the elixir to my happiness at school, even if he just talks to me a little bit it helps me feel so much better about being upset than other people talking to me a lot apart from when he tells me to go away and that kind of stuff which makes me feel worse. Part of the reason I’m upset is because of him anyway. I told the principal about how I was feeling and he said that he would talk to my favorite teacher about it. The principal said that he didn’t really think my favorite teacher really meant that he never wanted to talk to me again and that he just said it because he was grumpy. I hope that that was the case but I doubt it because when i saw my favorite teacher a few times after he said that I asked him when we could be friends again and when we could talk again and he said never every time I asked he said never and he told me to go away. These other teachers said that I wasn’t allowed to talk to the principal and that I could only see specified teachers. These teachers make me feel trapped and tell me that they don’t care that I’m upset. they say that my tears don’t evoke any sympathy because I cry too often and because I was the one crying. They said if another girl was crying they would care. They said that because I cried it didn’t change anything and that I was just doing it for attention. I told that I cried because I was actually really upset. There’s this one teacher that I talked to about my favorite teacher and she actually helped me better. Now I’m not allowed to talk to her. I do
Yeah and he has the right to feel comfortable but not at the expense of making other people like me too upset to be successful every day they come to school.