Nancy asks…
In a 20 plus year marriage relationship, How does one spouse get the other spouse to look at themselves?
My spouse does not see their part in the problems that are plaguing our marriage relationship. They deny that their attitude, statements, and actions are the major contributing factors that lead to a lack of trust and maturity in our marriage relationship. What do I need to do to in order to help without being blamed for the continuing strain in our relationship?
Lukes Love Life answers:
First of all congrats on a twenty plus marriage, I am at 25 years in mine. My wife and I communicate with each other sometimes to the point of anger. What we did was sit down and write all the pros and cons of each other, be honest.
State your feelings, then go into separate rooms and read.
After a short thinking time(Set guidelines) amt of time etc.
Come together and allow each other time to share about their feeling without interruption. Look at solutions only during the sharing time, no blame etc.start here and the next step will fall into place. The first task is to get the other to agree with the task.
Sharon asks…
What is the difference between marriage relationship and bf/gf relationship?except papers.?
i mean
sex & love & children & break up can exist in both
the only difference i see is the paper in marriage which will help women get the alimony after divorce
which will be good deal for gold digger and bad for men
Lukes Love Life answers:
Marriage = legit
bf/gf relationship = hell
Steven asks…
what steps do you take for a successful relationship/marriage?
I’m so used to seeing couples; both married and unmarried fight a lot and it scares me sometimes. How do you know if things will work out; successful couples apparently know how to fight the right way even if it gets heated to a crazy point. And then they make up.
How does one deal with feelings of jealosy, problems during the middle of a marriage, etc? Does sex help at times? Just curious to see what people have to say.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Yes I agree to an extent… Marriage counselors also say that it’s not always bad to fight, it’s “how” you settle your differences that bring success. Usually both sides come out feeling that they got their point across. Kinda… Both husband and wife have to understand that “one woman cannot fulfill ALL of his needs, and one man cannot fulfill ALL of her needs. But they are husband ‘n wife, so they have to make the best of it and sincerely do their best to do their part. She should try to bring out the best in him and he should try to bring out the best in her. Neither should put demands on the other that the other can’t possibly fulfill. Forgive easily. If you have high expectations of the other, it’s almost certain you’ll be disappointed, sooner or later.
If the other one cheats on you again and again, over ‘n over, then you have a Biblical right to divorce that person.
Betty asks…
Where can I find a good marriage and relationship counselor in Fort Worth Texas?
I have decided to take one step towards getting back my marriage, any help is appreciated.
Lukes Love Life answers:
My First Cousin went to a counseling place there called LifeWorks. He seemed to get his marriage back on track (at least they are still married anyway).
Http://www.lifeworkscounseling.net/ftworth
Best of luck with it. I have been through much the same thing myself.
Jenny asks…
What MIRACLE happened in your MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP?
…simply because you sincerely prayed to God, a Higher Power?? What were the specific negative circumstances at that time? How is your marriage/relationship today? How are you doing today?
Please share your testimonies, I need help in my marriage and could use some prayers. And I was impressed to ask some of you in here Im sure were/are in the same boat.
Please help me.
I don’t feel good enough to call myself a daughter of God only because sometimes my husband has ‘hurt’ me so many times that he can be the LAST person I want to pray for and in this dog-eat-dog world, I couldn’t care less. I know that’s wrong of me to think that way especially since my husband is another UN believer. I just want a successful-happy marriage that I didnt get to see while growing up. I guess that’s the MIRACLE Im praying for. Please help me.
I never thought I’d come to this but PLEASE guide me how-what to pray for my hurting husband who Ive discerned doesnt like himself very much.
Hmm, I’m really amazed, surprised there arent very many responses here (in Religion&Spirituality)…its scaring me!
Lukes Love Life answers:
This is 36th year of our marriage life We were blessed by two children and two grand children. We have unabundant relationship. The secret is we pray daily to the God who guide us. Dear Guests we pray for you too.
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