Chris asks…
Any men out there have advice for this semi new relationship?
I met this girl at work. She was new and we started talking with each other on the phone and such. We are so much alike, but then again we so much different. We have similiar values about life, the spirtual, relationships ect.
We say we love each other, and show that love. we are bound to our strongest belief , “Ill do to you, what you do to me” , however im more of the forgiving type, where she is more of ” i dont give 2nd chances”.
I respect her and that respect is returned to me all the time.
Its going well, but any advice about relationships will be great. I love to hear what you all have to share.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Many times that a person says, i dont give a second chance………means they may have been hurt a few times……….burns leave marks………just ease into things
Sandra asks…
Relationship/sex advice please? New man!?
I’ve met this guy a few times and I really like him and he really likes me, but he always goes on about sex and stuff, which I feel I am ready for, but I haven’t had sex properly before and I REAAALLY don’t want to tell him that I haven’t… even though he’ll find out when we do. Is there anything I can do to stop him knowing? Like breaking it myself or anything? Sounds so stupid.. haha
Lukes Love Life answers:
Please don’t sleep with a guy you don’t even know or have a relationship with – ESPECIALLY FOR YOUR FIRST TIME!!!!
Many of my friends first times were with guys they didn’t know, and each of them regrets their decision and wish theyd waited.
Whereas i was in a loving relationship with the guy i lost it to, and i’m still with him a year and a half later.
To me it really sounds like he just wants to get in your pants -_-
a guy yuou feel ready to have sexual relations with will be a guy you feel you can tell that you are a virgin – which is clearly not this guy.
Sorry to be so blunt, but i feel quite strongly about your situation and i am so sure you should wait!!
Robert asks…
Ex vs. New Man……need advice please?
My ex wants me back we been together for four years and i left him because he took me for granted and never showed affection to with me we broke up over ten times and now that i’m talking to another guy he is now pressuring me to go back to him this new guy in my life is in the military and the job he has he gets only one day off sometimes none he is a drill instructor so he is very busy and my ex is saying that i shouldn’t try to have a relationship with this man because of his job i want to give this guy a chance i’m very confused my ex lives close to me when this new guy works on the same base with me so i’ll see him sometimes when he’s not busy…..what should i do go back to my ex that took me for granted or try a new relationship with this other guy? this new guy has showed me mpre respect than what i had with the ex of four years i don’t want to hurt anymore…….Need Advice please
Lukes Love Life answers:
Go with your instincts. If you are tired of the old.. Then bring in the new. Its your life.. So do what makes you happy. You do not owe either one of them anything. Whatever your decision is.. Make sure the one who lost knows that they are out of the picture and mean it. Good luck.
Ruth asks…
Need advice about a new relationship. Best answer will be chosen.?
It has been a few months since my boyfriend of 3 years dumped me, and I am finally ready to start dating again. Fortunately, there is someone that I am interested in. There’s just a couple of problems…
Before I had my three year relationship, I had a problem with getting men to commit. I would have sex with them, and then they wouldn’t talk to me again after, or they would just want to use me for a booty call.
I want this time to be different, but I haven’t dated anyone new in so long that I really don’t remember what to do. I’m concerned that he is just going to try to have sex with me, and I need advice on how to hold off on that to gain respect, without him losing interest.
This is easier said than done for me, because in my past, I would just have sex with a man if he wanted to. But that only actually worked for me once, and I doubt that it will work again. I need to know how to tell him that I’m not just looking for sex without scaring him off, or making him lose interest. Please help me out, as we have pending plans for this weekend! 
Lukes Love Life answers:
.Sex does not,never did,never will cement a relationship.In fact the opposite is more correct,as guys seldom respect bed partners.It’s ok to let your hair down and have fun. However if you want a meaningful relationship.Put up the shutters
Carol asks…
Advice – my34 yr old dtr is desperate for a man-every new relationship ends with her feeling worthless – help?
I feel like it’s my problem – and I’m tense and anxious. what advice can I give?
Lukes Love Life answers:
It’s not YOUR problem…you can feel unhappy that she is not happy , but only SHE can solve the problem……And it seems her real problem , at 34 with the clock ticking, is that she now is ” desperate ” for a man …..Desperation is… 1 ) something that guys can sense in a woman and they usually get frightened off by it, .. And 2) it can make her do things and act in ways that probably hurt her chances with them …..Unless she is divorced, etc, …why is she still single at 34 ? …What does she think is the main reasons her relationships fail ? …What part of the failures are her fault ? ..What reasons do the guys give her if they are the ones ending the relationship ? ..Instead of giving her advice, you should have a frank talk with her about her answers to some of these types of questions….She didn’t get to be 34 and without a man for no reason …..and that’s what she needs to confront and work on….. I know you can’t help but be anxious, but try to hide it as best as possible..showing it will only make matters worse …Good wishes for you both.
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