David asks…
Does anyone know of a good gay relationship/marriage counselor in Los Angeles?
My boyfriend and I are looking for a counselor in L.A that specializes in same sex relationships or one that has experience in dealing with same sex relationship issues. Any serious feedback would be greatly appreciated.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Yeah I’m the best one around, pop by my place:
3000 Wilshire Blvd
CA 90010
Mary asks…
should i be a relationship counselor?
should i be a relationship counselor because i help people on a lot of there relationship problems should i become 1 when im older?
Lukes Love Life answers:
If you like doing it as a Career. I think it’s called Marriage Counselor.
I believe it’s a Masters Degree in Psychology.
Kyle don’t listen to these negative comments, they seem short with their comments, which would leave me to say they don’t have much of a promise life.
Steven asks…
How does a relationship with a Counselor Idealist personality and a Counselor Artesian personality function?
What are the obstacles they might face?
Lukes Love Life answers:
This sounds suspiciously like homework.
Counselor Idealist is the “label” for INFJs (introverted, intuitive, feeling, judging) on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I don’t know what a Counselor Artesian is supposed to be.
Chris asks…
Pessimist – Has anyone been to a relationship counselor and have a success story they can share.?
My boyfriend and I are considering visiting a counselor, but we are pessimistic. We have been together for 2 years and truly want our relationship to move forward, but need some advice regarding our differences. For instance, he believes I’m “controlling” when it comes to sex. (I want it less than he does). Also, he believes sex is a way for us to connect, I disagree with this.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Counseling only works if a person really wants change in their life.
Here’s what you can expect —
At first the counselor will ask both of you a lot of questions, and he or she will be taking notes. It won’t feel like they’re actually doing anything, but they really are. They are learning about you, and about your problems. It might even take a few sessions before they actually start addressing your issues. Often times people see a counselor for a specific problem, and end up focusing on something different. Some people become frustrated with this, because they just want their problem fixed. It’s never that easy. Human beings are complicated creatures, and there are usually a lot of underlying reasons for the things we do, and for the situations we find ourselves in. The job of the counselor is to understand you, understand your problem, know the answer to it, and then lead you to it. The last part is the most difficult part for the counselor, and for you. Throughout our lives we have embraced values and have held to certain beliefs about things, and a lot of times we end up embracing falsehood and believing all kinds of error. The counselor has the difficult and unpleasant task of challenging our beliefs, and you have the difficult task of allowing that to happen, and to open your mind up to new ideas. I’m not going to lie to you — this is hard work, but the end result is worth it.
My advice is to not just go to counseling being soley focused on settling a difference between you and your boyfriend, but to go so that you can become a better person — do it for you.
Regarding your problem with your boyfriend, he is wrong about you being controlling. Women typically do not want sex as often as guys do — that’s just reality. The term ‘controlling’ applies to a much different behavior that extends into all areas of life. As for it being the way to connect, I disagree as well. Sex is a barometer for your relationship. You can’t have a great sex life if the rest of your relationship sucks. If your boyfriend hurts your feelings and mistreats you during the day, you won’t feel like sleeping with him at night.
John asks…
I am looking for a counselor / relationship advisor who would be open to helping a bachelor
I am currently going through alot with a few issues with my family and a girlfriend and could use some help. My family and friends do not have time to talk with me due to their own family and parental duties and I think if I don’t get some good one on one feedback from a caring advisor I think I’ll possibly spiral downward. If you are willing to help I promise to be confidential, respectful of your time, and open-minded. I can not pay you as my insurance and living expenses are maxed out but if you live in Indy I’ll buy dinner, coffee, or a stoli.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Taking Authority over Your EmotionsEmotions are an area that many Christians don’t understand. Because of this, Believers often allow their emotions to lead them. As a result, emotionally-led decisions take them on a course that is out of the will of God for their lives. While God gave every human being emotions, it is critical that we get control over negative emotions and subject them to the Word of God. Make these daily confessions so that you can subject your feelings to God’s Word and make the right decisions:
Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me healthy emotions. I declare that negative emotions will not impact my decisions, neither will they dictate my responses to difficult circumstances. I will submit my feelings to You in every situation that I encounter in life. You have given me authority over the power of the enemy, and I declare that nothing shall by any means hurt me, including people and situations that try to negatively influence my emotions. When I feel overwhelmed by life, or troubled by negative emotions, like Jesus, I will pray and keep moving forward I bind depression, anxiety, worry, fear, doubt, anger, rejection and any other negative emotion that tries to attack my mind. I possess power, love and a sound mind. I thank You, Father, that I walk in peace, joy and the comfort of the Holy Ghost. I have the mind of Christ and my emotions are controlled by the Word of God. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
Scriptural references:
·Mark 14:33-35
·Luke 10:19
·2 Timothy 1:7
·Romans 14:17
·1 Corinthians 2:16
God Bless U
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