Helen asks…
What annoys you most about Blogs…?
about Relationships and Dating ? What do you like about them? Or what do you wish to see/ read that you never find?
I completely agree!!!
I hate when I read blogs and the writers are on this personal rant- I’m like… I don’t want to read about YOU I want to read about whatever the blog is about.
Lukes Love Life answers:
The bad grammar. As far as the relationship blogs, I hate it when people rant or are sarcastic about love and relationships. Some people are perfectly happy in that department..Like me! 
Nancy asks…
Is it possible to be in a long term relationship with someone whose best friends you dislike?
I have known my current boyfriend for two years and we have been dating for one year. I met his best friends about six months after becoming friends with my boyfriend. They were very cool at first, but when we decided to get into a relationship, things began to change. They began to do little things to upset me like write blogs directed towards me and intentionally try to make me upset. Recently, I was with my boyfriend and we saw one of his friends. His friend talked only to my boyfriend and ignored me; we saw his friend again that day…ignorned me again. It wasn’t until my boyfriend said something to him that he spoke; he had been having a rough week, but still. I just don’t see how I can be in a great relationship yet not really get along with people that are so close to him.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Yes you can.I have the same problem but I knew his friends first.I think that they are just jealous because they lost one of bedt friends…for you.He really loves you if he syays with you and not go with his friends.my bf’s best friends has a cruch on me so it’s a little wierd to hang out with him.
Mandy asks…
For the Ladies regarding AM/WW relationships…?
Just trying to help out here in a struggle and issue thats been goin on concerning AM/WW relationships.
Whenever I browse Asian male/ White woman dating blogs here I try to find something positive but I always find these answers:
White guys’ response: “My sister told me she would never date an Asian guy”.
Ladys’ resonse: I asked many of my white coworkers if they’d ever consider dating an Asian guy and they all said no.
Most sounded a bit like these. It hurts my pride and gets me more depressed….BUT….I’d like to say that I’ve been in a very intimate relationship with a white lady. She’s beautiful, caring,warm, and brightens up my day everytime we see meet. I am very grateful to prove some wrong. I hope this serves a little as inspiration to other Asian guys who are courting or having a crush on white women. Just go for it is what I say. Don’t hold anything back. If a woman rejects you on race, they don’t deserve you at all. In my eyes, Confidence gets the lady. =)
Lukes Love Life answers:
What is your questions?
Carol asks…
How can I get my girlfriend to find a passion?
I go to college with my girlfriend of ~5 years. We’re both engineers and very busy. I love my girlfriend very much, but when she’s not working (and she has TONS of work to do), she either wants to spend time with me or go home and spend time with her mom.
I have my own hobbies that I can’t wait to get back into after I’m done with schoolwork (namely, aeronautics club). It’s something that I can dedicate my time and energy to, and I find it very rewarding (it is very much an art as much as an engineering practice!)
I’m worried that my girlfriend has no such equivalent activity. I love that she loves spending time with me, but I’d like to see her fall in love with some activity/hobby/art that she can call her own, too. I wish she could have something that she can dedicate herself to and be proud of. An engineering club, art, music, dance, martial arts, video games, anything.
I read on one of those relationship-blogs (probably on psychologytoday.com) about dating nerds. The author said that, basically, a nerd is anyone who is obsessed with something (computer nerd, football nerd, art nerd, etc.) and that dating a nerd can be rewarding because you’re dating someone who is filled with passion and a sense of purpose. I really would like my girlfriend to find something she’s passionate about. I think college is the ideal time to find a passion, since you get so many opportunities to try new things. Sometimes I think I’m even responsible for stifling my girlfriend’s creative development.
She does exercise pretty regularly and has done some half-triathlons, but these activities seem like more work than hobby. She admits she often tries to talk herself out of training, while I never think twice about an opportunity to design flying machines with aeronautics club. I imagine that a dancer never talks him/herself out of dancing, and an artist never talks him/herself out of painting..
I’ve tried talking to her about this, but I don’t ever say things explicitly because I don’t want to tell her how to live her life. I also don’t want to manipulate her and sculpt her into my image of a perfect person/girlfriend. How can I get her to find a passion?
Lukes Love Life answers:
Tl;dr
Laura asks…
Should I persue a relationship with someone who is in the Army?
Me and my ex broke up two years ago. He was the love of my life, or so it feels. I finally got over him. In these past two years I haven’t really been in a relationship, I’ve dated here and there, but I usually get bored or just break it off for the simple fact that I don’t think it’s the right guy for me. Well I met this guy, he’s such a GREAT guy. Different. So respectful, yet not boring. Little things he does like opening the car door, walking me to my door at night with an added goodnight kiss, or just being polite are traits I appreciate and love that about him. I get along with him great. And I never thought I’d actually genuinely like or be able to see myself being happy with someone like I was with my ex did. But I do with him, I’ve grown really fond of him. But I hesitate to pursue the relationship because he is in the Army (Infantry). When I commit to someone I REALLY commit to them. And I know that if things keep going as well as they are I’m not going to want to leave him, and I will end up sticking around even after he gets deployed; I will become one of the many Army Girlfriends. My friend Molli who was a Marine Girlfriend for 4 years tells me I should save myself from the pain and break it off. I had front row seating in seeing how her boyfriend being in the military affected their relationship. I really like him, but i’m at a complete blank about what to do.
I’ve read blogs that Army Wives and Girlfriends have written. They live a hard life. Loving someone who is overseas. Constant worry if they’re okay.
I don’t know if it’s something I should save myself from or if I’d be missing out on a oppertunity with a really great guy.
Lukes Love Life answers:
Hey, my boyfriend is in the military we’ve been together for many years, and he got deployed a couple months ago. Through all the training before hand we were good because i wasnt really worried about him. I say go for it. Love is hard to find and if you think that theres a possibility that you could fall in love with this kid i think you should go for it. By how you explained it, your words just really seem as if your really attracted to him. People think military relationships are so bad and they are SO hard. Their easier than they seem. Its hard having to worry constantly, and not being able to talk to him all the time like i’d really like to, but its something you get used to, and you think about how you know he’s thinking about you just as much as your thinking about him. Lots of people aren’t in the military their whole lives, so theres a chance for a good future if you just dedicate yourself and go for it. You still communicate even overseas, you just need to be a strong enough girl to be able to deal with distance. Some girls, military relationships aren’t really made for them to have. You do not have to worry about him cheating on you, which is a definite bonus because thats one of our worries also just being a girl, you just have to worry about god forbid anything happening to him. Not every soldier dies, and people don’t understand that. Thousands of soldiers come back full alive, without any wounds, and they fought for our country with everything they have. The times they come home are the best times in your life, because you miss eachother so much that you have the best time together. Theres none of that crap where you fight about this and fight about that, you overall just appreciate eachothers company. Yeah, its hard to say goodbye again, its almost like a fakeout. But, you just need to keep a positive attitude. Hope i helped if you need any other advice message me!
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