Your Questions About Relationship Troubles Advice

Lisa asks…

Relationship Troubles. Advice Please.?

Okay, I Know Someone Is Going to Comment And Say Something about stupid teenage drama but please hear me out:)

Well I Am 16 And This is only my second relationship in high school and everything has been going great i met his family. I Love them and thy love me. And its just been perfect. But we have been only been dating for a month now, and i feel like he is loosing interest or something I’m Not Sure What it is? For Example we share a locker and at first he always came and we walked together held hands kissed you know the usual. but now I See him at the most five times a day for like two minutes:/ And No One Likes to walk alone and then you see other couples and i just don’t know what happened?

I just don’t know what could be going on. I gave him his space for this week and before we left he gave me a kiss and stuff but that’s it. i wanna ask him if he still wants to be with me. but i’m afraid he’s gonna say no. Advice Please.
- his Birthday is in 6 days so maybe something i could do?

Lukes Love Life answers:

Before you waste money or thoughtful time and ideas on his birthday you should ask him about the weird distance that’s been going on lately. I know you’re scared to ask him cos you may already know the answer, but for your own sanity ask him so you won’t have to keep on wondering and worrying. Protect that heart of yours by all means.

Donald asks…

Relationship troubles…Advice?

I’ve been going out with this guy for a few months now, and at first it seemed great and everything. But now I’m starting to wonder if I really want a relationship at all, and it seems like all he wants to do when we’re alone is making out and cuddling. Not that I mind the physical stuff, but I wish he would want to talk more…and I know that sounds like a typical female complaint. He’s also been hinting that he’s going to say “I love you” which scares the crap out of me. I’m just sarting to wonder and would like someone elses advice who’s not looking at it through my eyes.

Lukes Love Life answers:

Hmmm, maybe you aren’t interested in him at all, if his saying the L word scares you. I think it is time for you to talk to him, honestly about where the relationship is going, and see if maybe he wants more out of it than you. If that is the case, then it is time for you to move on, so you don’t hurt him more.

Daniel asks…

I’m having relationship troubles… advice?

My boyfriend and I have been dating since the starting of the school year. We aren’t having troubles like everyone bashing the gay kids. But around everyone he’s comfortable with me, except his friends. He tries to keep his distance from me around his friends. Around my friends he’s all over me.

Anything I can do to make him more comfortable around his friends?

Lukes Love Life answers:

I don’t think that is the question you should be asking. I think you should ask your bf why he is uncomfortable being with you around his friends. Is he embarrassed by them or you? Do they know you are dating or think you are just friends? Does he have another gf he brings around them and is physically affectionate with in front of them?

Us women think it is our problem to solve when the guy is uncomfortable or shy or mean or cheap or abusive. It’s not. It is our problem to decide if we want to confront the problem or get away from it before it overshadows the rest of our lives.

Linda asks…

Relationship troubles, need advice?

I just got back from a five day school camp today, and during the camp I started becoming quite close with a guy who had previously just been someone I was sort of friendly with. Anyway, on the last night of camp, we went for a walk and then it started raining so we went into one of the rooms which was empty. We were talking very openly and honestly and I knew that I had been starting to have feelings for him, but I didn’t know if he felt the same way, so I started sort of giving him hints and eventually I just told him exactly how I felt, then he was holding me in his arms and hugging me and we were about to kiss, and I pulled away. I don’t know why I did it, because I definitely do have feelings for him, but I just couldn’t start something. I thought that maybe he was just caught up in the moment because we were being intimate that he was reciprocating it, but I wasn’t sure if he really had feelings for me, and didn’t want to ruin our friendship if things got awkward, and I also didn’t want to open myself up to getting hurt. I told him that I wasn’t sure and he said he just wanted me to be happy because he really cares about me alot, but now he’s saying he wants to make a clear decision and he thinks he wants to be with me. But now, I’m not so sure, even though I was the one who initiated it. I really like him but I don’t know if I want to start a relationship. I know it’s all quite complicated, but any advice on what I should do? Thanks for your help :) xx

Lukes Love Life answers:

Follow your heart, and don’t over think everything. If you decide you want to try it out and maybe after a couple weeks you realize it isn’t what you want take the experience and learn from it. If you decide you want to wait longer to figure things out and he’s not willing to wait he isn’t worth it anyway. Just listen to your heart because you may find something worth fighting for

David asks…

relationship troubles!! nice advice only please :( ?

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year..we actually celebrated our anniversary a couple of weeks ago. Anyway, on this past monday i found out he has been talking to another woman late at night and throughout his day since the 12th (saturday) thats on the phone anyway..idk how long hes been talking to her online or any other way. Anyway, when i confronted him about it he lied until he had no choice but to admit it to me and he told me that he is confused about what he wants. That would be fine but, for months he has been telling me how he wants to move in together once he gets back from iraq (he is being deployed oct 25 for 1 year)..we have talked marriage and everything…he’s actually the one who has brought it up..my friends are asking me why i would put up with this since hes going to be gone for so long, but the answer is that i really love him. Anyway, I saw his cell phone call logs after he told me he had stopped talking to her bc he knows he wants to be with me now and he doesnt know what he was thinking..he must have been just worried about going to iraq. So, I saw the call logs and he has been talking to her everyday even after he said he stopped. So i confronted him about that and he said that sprints call log entries are all out of wack and not correct online. I know i shouldnt believe him and i dont, but i am really trying to salvage our relationship. i know it sounds stupid on my part but the only explanation i have is that i love him. So i wanted to know if anyone knows for sure if it is true or not? I think im just holding on to any hope that i have at this point. and i also wanted to know if anyone has been through anything similar?

oh and also, since he’s in the army, he has to do guard duty a lot, which he said he has tonight through tomorrow evening and for this one he wont be able to have his phone so i shouldnt worry about calling..but i did so i could leave him a voicemail tonight ..and i noticed in the call logs he has called like 4 ppl since he talked to me at around 530pm..2 of which were her. :(

again, i know im probably just an idiot, but if you have anything mean to say please dont respond, i really need serious advice here. thanks in advance :)

Lukes Love Life answers:

I’m sorry this is hurting you. I can read that it is..but what you need to know.. You already do.. He is not being honest with you. He may not yet be cheating physically, but he would be had you not caught him…and he may be already you just don’t know it. Living this kind of life is not life at all. It’s worrisome, stressful beyond words.. Always wondering if what he is saying is the truth or a lie. You know he is not doing the right thing. It will end sooner or later because you know in your heart he is doing wrong.. Why prolong the pain? I’ve been through it..I waited, I hoped. I finally said.. Enough! It was the best thing I ever did for myself. Yes it took some time getting over him.. But I could still be there today and still in pain.. But I’m not because I got out.

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